Does My Partner Think They're Settling? 7 Signs They're Having Doubts

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When you're casually dating multiple people, there's always that one person you like more than everyone else. Unless you've already agreed to be exclusive with that person, you have to assume they're dating other people as well. Nobody ever wants to be someone's second choice, or feel like they're being settled for, especially when you're starting to fall for someone. So, how can you tell if the person you're dating genuinely wants to be with you or just sees you as their second choice? According to experts, there are some signs you can look out for.

"Naturally, people put more value on their first choice. So you'll get treated to all the good things in life," Celia Schweyer, dating and relationship expert at DatingScout, tells Bustle. When you're someone's first choice, your feelings will actually matter to them. You won't ever be stood up, they'll text you regularly just to check in, their friends actually know who you are, and they'll make you feel like a priority in their life.

"If they're still actively looking for someone through dating apps, or cancel things with you the last minute, then you may really be the backup fling you are dreading to become," Schweyer says. So here are some signs you may only be someone's second choice, according to experts.