It's easy to fall into the pattern of dating the same kind of person over and over. If you're on a dating app and quickly swiping through profile photos you can just notice a simple thing like hair color or a certain kind of job and swipe accordingly. It seems almost efficient, right? Well, dating your "type" may keep things simpler, but it doesn't necessarily get you the relationship you want.
If you find yourself sticking to the same type of person when you date, it may be time to break out of the habit. And the truth is, a lot of have a type that we go back to again and again — even if we don't realize it — but dating someone who isn't your type has a lot of benefits. "Look at some pictures of ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends, think back when you dated them," dating expert Noah Van Hochman tells Bustle. "Do they look the same or have similar characteristics? What types of activities did you both enjoy? If more, often than not, you see a pattern of everything being similar except the names, then you definitely have a type."
You may find something that attracts you, a certain hair color or job or interest, and, without meaning to, you find yourself drawn to it again and again. But if your type is too specific, you may just be setting yourself up for making the same relationship mistakes again and again. That "mysterious" type you like may just be emotionally unavailable. Maybe you love someone who has a high-powered job but constantly get annoyed at the amount of hours they work.
There's a lot to be said for dating outside of your type, but it can be scary to break away from that pattern — so here's how experts say you can get started.