If Your Arguments Follow These 8 Patterns, You’re Much More Likely To Get Divorced

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There is no set formula of what causes a divorce. When a couple walks down the aisle, their fate is not sealed. Arguments, however, can be one of the biggest factors that ends up impacting a couple's long-term happiness. Arguments that lead to divorce tend to drive wedges between partners that are harder to repair.

Researcher Dr. John Gottman is famous for his study of the "Four Horsemen," four communication styles that can predict the end of a relationship. These habits — criticism, contempt, defense, and stonewalling — are only some of a variety of toxic communication patterns that can be a hint that a couple may not last.

Avoiding these sorts of communication styles is one thing, but approaching arguments with love is what really indicates a relationship is built for the ages. "Gottman found that kindness and generosity were big predictors of a successful marriage," David Bennett, certified counselor and relationship expert, tells Bustle. "Over time, many conversations within relationships lack these important traits, and partners start coming across as filled with contempt and an unwillingness to see anything positive in their partner." So while one horrible fight may not necessarily catapult a couple towards divorce, patterns of harshness and criticism, instead of kindness and understanding, can make an eventual breakup a bit more likely.

Here are eight argument patterns that are likely to predict divorce, according to experts.