Casual sex can be such a divisive topic. Some people love it, some people hate it, and a lot of people want to love it — but end up hating it after the fact. I am totally of the mind that you should never be hooking up if it doesn't make you feel great about yourself. And if you can have a healthy hookup, then by all means do it! But what makes a hookup "healthy"? And what doesn't?
"A healthy hookup is about three things," Dr. Joanne Davila and relationship expert Kaycee Lashman, authors of The Thinking Girl's Guide to the Right Guy: How Knowing Yourself Can Help You Navigate Dating, Hookups, and Lovetell Bustle. "1) You know what you want, 2) you and your partner are on the same page about why you’re hooking up, and 3) it’s a good sexual experience for both of you. In the end, a hookup is healthy when both people come away sexually satisfied, happy they did it, and are OK with the idea that it might never be anything more than a hookup. If you’re interested in hooking up, there are three skills you need to use to increase the likelihood that you’ll have the experience you want and that you won’t end up confused and feeling bad."
But it doesn't always feel that simple. So here is how they break it down about how to keep your hookups healthy, because they're not for everyone: