In most relationships, disagreements are a fact of life. There's no getting around a fight now and then with your partner about love, money, lifestyle, or being on your phone too much at dinner, and make-up sex is often the perfect prescription. That said, not everyone is on board with a post-argument session. While some folks are 100 percent into solving hurt feelings with seven (or 45) minutes in heaven, others find it distasteful and downright exploitative.
According to a new study published in Evolutionary Psychological Science, men are more likely to respond positively to make-up sex, while women are more likely to respond positively to their partner "spending time with them, apologizing, and crying" after an argument. The study authors suggest this is because men are more likely to break up with a mate because of sexual inaccessibility, while women are more likely to break up with one because of emotional inaccessibility. But although these differences may be valid, it's important to note that they are based upon a very heterosexual model, and that the above-mentioned research only used 164 participants between the ages of 18 and 61 to come to such conclusions.
So how do women really feel about make-up sex? It's neither all good nor all bad, according to eight different women interviewed about sex after conflict.
"Make-up sex is like a magical anger-be-gone elixir. One round and it's like, 'What were we arguing about again?!'"
"I prefer make-up masturbation. I focus on myself and feel so much better after being upset with my partner for whatever reason. Does that count as make-up sex?"
Yes, Jackie, it definitely does.
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