Is My Mom Toxic? 7 Signs You're Going Through A Rough Patch With Your Mother Vs. It's Actually Something More Serious

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If your mom is part of your life, then chances are you occasionally hit a rough patch, no matter how close your bond is. But it might not be immediately clear if your mom is toxic or if you're going through a hard time in your relationship. According to experts, a major key to distinguishing the two is looking at how long the strife lasts. If things are nasty between you in many different areas of the relationship for years at a time, the relationship itself might be toxic. But if there's only one, sudden issue, that's probably more benign.

If you suspect that your mom is a toxic person in your life, it's important to try to have positive and yet realistic expectations for how your relationship will continue. "A truly toxic mom is not likely to change her pattern of behavior," Shannon Thomas, LCSW, a certified trauma therapist and author of Healing from Hidden Abuse, tells Bustle. "Facing this reality can be heartbreaking but also freeing," she says. Of course, this doesn't mean that you shouldn't attempt to repair the relationship. Setting healthy boundaries and speaking with a mental health professional can help you navigate things moving forward.

Here are some signs that you're just having a hard time with your mom, as opposed to signs that she's actually toxic, according to experts.