Professional Dominatrixes Weigh In On The Donald Trump "Golden Shower" Allegations
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Recently, the internet exploded when Buzzfeed released a 35-page unverified document compiled by a former British intelligence official about Donald Trump and his associations with and actions in Russia. While there were plenty of allegations in the dossier to raise concerns about Trump’s actions, the tidbit that got the most press was the claim that the president-elect allegedly hired two Russian sex workers to pee on a bed at the Ritz-Carlton in Moscow that the Obamas once slept in. Trump denied the allegations in the document during a press conference and by calling it "fake news" on Twitter, but think-pieces abounded. Was Trump really into urine play? Should we shame people for their kinks? Was what allegedly happened even urine play at all?

But one thing largely missing from the conversation was opinions about the unverified dossier from actual sex workers. I was curious: What would someone who actually gets paid to give golden showers think of this story? How would that change the perspective? So I asked.

Germaphobia Doesn't Necessarily Help His Argument

Miss Couple is Head Mistress of La Domaine Esemar, the world's oldest BDSM training chateau and dancer whose work includes political performance art pieces. During the presidential campaign, she created a character called Madame Hillary and raised almost $1,000 for Planned Parenthood. She says that urine play is “a crucial primal aspect of all mammalian sexuality.”

I would say about 20 to 30 percent of my clients have expressed interest in it or fantasize about it, but only about 10 to 15 percent actually go through with it.

“While we may not think about it consciously, the idea of being involved with the waste of another human being can be very erotic to humans,” Miss Couple tells Bustle. “I would say about 20 to 30 percent of my clients have expressed interest in it or fantasize about it, but only about 10 to 15 percent actually go through with it.”

So did Trump actually go through with it? Obviously the only people who know for sure are the women he allegedly paid (if they exist) and Trump himself. In a press conference following the release of the dossier, the president-elect vehemently denied even the possibility of engaging in urine play, citing his much-documented germophobia. However, professional dominatrix, writer, and sex workers rights activist Mistress Matisse thinks that Trump’s germophobia is actually evidence for the “he did it” side.

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“When I first saw the document, I was on the fence about it,” Mistress Matisse tells Bustle. “But then I saw the press conference where Trump denied the story by saying ‘I'm a germaphobe.’ When I saw that, I thought ‘Oh yeah, then you definitely did it.’ Because that's an irrational fear. And nothing makes already-taboo things sexier than a tinge of trepidation.”

We Shouldn’t Call Urine Play “Perverted”

One of the biggest narratives that has come out of these allegations centers around the idea that urine play is “perverse” — and that perversion is bad. Twitter exploded with tweets and memes mocking the president-elect, and the dossier itself used the words “personal obsessions and sexual perversion,” and also called the alleged event “perverted.” Miss Couple points out that mocking Trump for an alleged kink isn’t OK — period.

“I think that it is important to remember that mocking someone's fetish does not become an acceptable practice just because you don't agree with their policies or don't like them,” Miss Couple says.

We should be directing our outrage and ridicule towards the fact that he is a known sexual abuser and has an openly fascist, white supremacist agenda. Those are traits that are much more deserving of the ‘perverted’ label.

There's plenty to criticize Trump for, she says, like the total lack of respect he's shown women — but his alleged sexual interests shouldn't be on that list.

Mistress Matisse agrees that urine play isn’t shameful or “perverse.” Instead, she sees it as a highly intimate moment that she has the privilege to share with her clients.

“When I'm doing a BDSM scene, I don't piss on someone to degrade them, I piss on them because in that moment, I love them. They are MINE,” Mistress Matisse says. “In that moment, I am my most animal self, marking my partner as my own. My partners are being reborn, and I am baptizing them.”

Is This Even A Kink?

Considering that the president-elect allegedly asked the Russian sex workers to pee on the bed, not on him or even on each other, some people are asking if this was even about sex at all. Porn performer Kitty Styrker wrote in Wear Your Voice Mag that “Trump is not into consensual watersports.

“He didn’t [allegedly] hire sex workers to pee on him or each other; he [allegedly] hired them to pee on a bed the Obamas slept on as a method of defiling it,” she writes of the allegations. “This was an [alleged] act of racism and toxic masculinity, of marking territory, of demanding ownership and feeling entitled.”

But Mistress Matisse disagrees. She views the alleged event as a way for Trump to, yes, act out “childish” feelings of spite toward the Obamas, but contends that in allegedly hiring sex workers, the act becomes sexual.

The fact that he [allegedly] had hot women come in and do a piss scene for him (or with him?) means that he was acting out a sexualized dominance fantasy, in a way that only underscores how little access and power he had over the President then.

“Look, if Trump really wanted to ruin the bed for reasons that had nothing to do with sex, he could've just taken a sh*t on it all by himself,” Mistress Matisse says. “The fact that he [allegedly] had hot women come in and do a piss scene for him (or with him?) means that he was acting out a sexualized dominance fantasy, in a way that only underscores how little access and power he had over the President then.”

Mistress Matisse even says that “the bedroom or the dungeon is a place where, with consenting partners, we are allowed to act out power games, even childish ones.” What she worries about, however, is the fact that a man who may have such childish impulses is now in a position of incredible power. Now, that is where our focus should be.