If you're worried about whether or not you're having "enough" sex, don't worry too much — everyone is different. It may be that you and your partner just don't have high sex drives and that's totally OK. What you do need to watch out for you is whether you and your partner are getting into a sex rut— that is, more sex than is normal by your own standard's not anyone else's.
"Sex is often seen as something we outgrow or can easily go without, but sexuality and intimacy are an expression of our life force, creativity and love, and must be expressed to be fully realized as a people," Lauren Brim, a sexual wellness coach and author of The New Rules of Sex, tells Bustle. "If our sexuality isn't being expressed, it will show up as problems in other areas of our body and life. Plus, sex is just too damn good for you to live your life without it!"
One of the best ways of getting around a sex rut is realizing that you don't need to be feeling like a Greek goddess every time you want to get down. You should never have sex that you're really not in the mood for — but feeling a little tired or lazy isn't a reason to skip a session. In fact, some sex positions work just as well when you're feeling lazy AF. Here's what you should try: