The art of winning people over is a skill most of us could benefit from mastering. While it's pretty impossible to get
every single person to like you, knowing how to win over a select few, like your boss, a difficult coworker, or even your partner's parents, can really make your life a lot easier. Knowing the right way to do it isn't easy. After all, there is a fine line between knowing how to get someone on your side and manipulation. But knowing your zodiac sign can clue you into the the easiest tricks you should use to win people over.
Each sign has both positive and negative characteristics that differentiate them from everyone else. If you want to win people over
astrologer Judi Vitale tells Bustle, it's important to embrace all aspects of yourself. "The best way to be a well-liked person is to be ALL of who you really are," she says. "When you hold back or try too hard, you lose your authenticity. But when you simply extend your heart and express your love for others, people can’t help but be attracted to you."
So, what's the best way for you to win people over? According to Vitale, here's what you should do, based on your zodiac sign:
Aries (March 21 - April 19): Step Up And Be A Leader
On good days,
Aries are known for being energetic, bold, and unstoppable. If you want to win people over, Vitale says you should use your willingness to lead the way to get people to realize how valuable you are. But a word of caution: "In your rush to go where few have deigned to tread, don’t step on too many toes."
Taurus (April 20 - May 20): Keep Being The Source Of Stability
Taurus are fixed earth signs who are known for being patient, organized, and supportive. "Your predictability and stability will get you far because people will know they can always count on you," Vitale says. "Just don’t get so stuck in your rut that you begin to bore."
So keep being that predictable and stable you, but don't be afraid to shake it up every now and then.
Gemini (May 21 - June 20): Play Up Your Natural Charm
Out of everyone in the zodiac, Geminis are the best at charming the people they meet. Geminis are true originals who know how to communicate. As Vitale says, "Your natural charm sprinkles on people like Tinkerbell’s fairy dust." But keep in mind, winning people over isn't just about you.
"Your ability to always be engaged in conversations shouldn’t preclude you from being considerate enough to listen from time to time," she says. So make sure you're listening just as much as you're talking.
Cancer (June 21 - July 22): Utilize Your Good Taste
Cancers are very intune to their emotions. They're also known for being nurturing, compassionate and helpful. The nurturing nature that you exude is never more obvious than times when people are looking for food. "You can cook, probably, but you also have a nose with a knack for sniffing out the best places to eat," Vitale says. Just be sure to relax and don't take it too personally when people don’t agree with your choices.
Leo (July 23 - Aug. 22): Keep Being Your Naturally Charismatic Self
Leos are known for their outgoing nature. They love being in the spotlight. On good days, they're also known for being kind, geneous, and loyal. "Your natural charisma is all you need to attract people to you and all that you do," Vitale says. But Leo, just remember, balance is key.
"At some point, your big personality becomes braggadocio, and your powers of attraction can morph into a potent repellent," she says. So know when to play it up and know when to tone it down.
Virgo (Aug. 23 - Sept. 22): Wow People With Your Unmatched Problem-Solving Abilities
Virgos are not only hardworking and practical, they're also known for being witty and resourceful. According to Vitale, "Indispensable" is your middle name. "The way you solve problems on the spot impresses everyone you meet," she says. It’s important, however, to be open to the idea that other people have good ideas once in a while too.
Libra (Sept. 23 - Oct. 22): Keep Being Genuinely Sweet
Libras, like their fellow air signs Geminis, are also known to be very charming and lovable. "You just blow them away with the way you always know the right thing to say," Vitale says. "But keep your tendency to turn a pinch of sugar into a bowl of saccharin in check."
Sometimes you can be so sweet to the point that people start wondering if you’re truly sincere. It's important to make sure people know you're being genuine.
Scorpio (Oct. 23 - Nov. 21): Make Someone Feel Like They're The Only Person In The World
Scorpios are known for being sensual and seductive in nature. "Your perception and focus can make other people believe they’re the only other human being in your world," Vitale says. As long as you don’t get too invasive or intrusive, your ability to “read” them can create intimate emotional intimacy.
Sagittarius (Nov. 22 - Dec. 21): Impress People With Your Desire To Explore
Sagittarius are honest, adventurous, and encouraging. "People are always impressed by your natural curiosity and desire to learn more and more about the world," Vitale says. The one thing you should be mindful of, however, is that you're sometimes too hard to pin down. So hold still for a moment and give people the chance to get to know you.
Capricorn (Dec. 22 - Jan. 19): Show People That You're Trustworthy
Capricorns are harworking, loyal, and ambitious. If you want to win people over, don't be afraid to express your goals for the future. "An air of authority is the thing that people notice first about you," Vitale says.
People don't know why they trust you, they just do. All will go as planned, she says, as long as you don’t engage in domineering behavior or power plays.
Aquarius (Jan. 20 - Feb. 18): Express Your Unique Views
Aquarius are very open-minded individuals who pretty much do their own thing. Your open-mindedness is the key to winning people over because you value individuality. "Everybody loves your quirky, original way of thinking, and your desire to make the world a better place," Vitale says. You’ll have more fun in life if you suggest more than insist that others “convert” to your way of thinking.
Pisces (Feb. 19 - March 20): Make Everyone See Things More Positively
Pisces are dreamers. You're also known for being helpful, wise, and comforting. "Your ability to see the good in all beings makes you as lovable as the rest of the world is to you," Vitale says. But just be aware that you’ll draw in even more admiring friends and lovers if you "add a pinch of reality to your pool of perception."
Winning people over may not be easy, but if you're familiar with your zodiac sign's strengths and weaknesses, you can find the best way ways to get people on your side.