When it comes to what to look for in a partner, what we should look for isn't always what we're actually attracted to. Many experts would tell us that we should be looking at important internal characteristics, like values. And it's easy to see why those are important. "Core values are fundamental beliefs that help to guide and dictate a person's behavior as well as inspire someone to commit to a particular action that is in line with certain life goals and fulfillment," Katie Krimer, MA, LMSW, & Therapist, tells Bustle. "Core values as they pertain to a romantic relationship refer to those same fundamental beliefs that might make one feel safe, comfortable, inspired, passionate, and connected to their partner and within the relationship."
It's so true, but core values don't always make me swipe right the way a perfect six pack would unfortunately. The brain, the heart, (and the clit) don't always speak in agreement. But are we all really that shallow? Well, according to a new survey from YouGov, I should give us all a little more credit. They asked over 7,000 men and women from around the world what the most important thing they looked for in a partner was and, when it came to the top spot, both men and women were most likely to go with personality. So maybe I was being too harsh — it turns out we're pretty decent people. But it was really interesting to see what people thought was most important trait when looking for a partner. Here's what they found.