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The One Way You May Make People Feel Uncomfortable, Based On Your Zodiac Sign
No matter who you are, you may have a little something about you that can make people feel uncomfortable being around you. It's nothing to fret over too much, because it's always important to be yourself. Plus, this quality may even be the one thing that others close to you love about you. But many times it's not easy to recognize when you're making others feel a certain way because it may be something you just naturally do. Thankfully, we have astrology to give us a bit of insight into the ways we make people feel most uncomfortable without even realizing it.
Whether you take it seriously or just use it for fun, astrology can be pretty useful for various aspects of your life. While knowing your entire birth chart can help unlock the inner workings of yourself, knowing your sun sign is a good start. It's the one you're probably most familiar with since it's typically used to check daily horoscopes. According to astrologer and psychic medium, Suzie Kerr Wright, "Your Sun Sign is pretty much who you are when the door is locked and no one is around. You are the essence of that sign."
If you don't happen to resonate with any of the below, that's totally normal, too. As Wright says, we all have planets and signs, aside from our Sun sign, in our charts that interact with each other in different ways. "Where they are in your chart is what makes us the unique individuals we are," she says. "Not everyone acts exactly like their Sun Sign for that reason."
So from being a little too honest to being super secretive, these are the ways you may rub people the wrong way, according to astrology.
Aries (March 21 - April 19): You Can Be A Little Too Honest Sometimes
There's nothing wrong with being honest. In fact, honesty is one of the best traits a person can have. But while your intentions may be pure, you never know how someone is going to react to the cold, hard truth sometimes. "You might think you’re just speaking your mind, but there is such a thing as 'too much' honesty," astrologer Judi Vitale tells Bustle. "Blatant statements can sometimes hurt other people’s feelings."
What you can do to improve: Hearing the truth may work for some, but for others, it can hurt, so if you know one of your friends is sensitive or hates ~real talk~, it may be wise to hold back a little. And, know that it's OK to apologize if you ever realize you might've taken it too far.
Taurus (April 20 - May 20): You're Resistant To Change
Most astrology-lovers would recognize you as the stubborn bull. You're very set in your ways, which is a good thing because people know exactly what to expect from you, and there's a level of comfort in that. However, when someone like you is resistant to even the smallest changes, Vitale says, the people around may be too afraid to even ask you to try a new coffee place.
What you can do to improve: Although you may feel comfortable with your go-to hangouts, don't be afraid to just go with it every now and then and try something different. If your friends bring up trying someplace new, try it out without making a huge deal about it. Afterwards, if you prefer your usual spot, let your friends know and work it out from there.
Gemini (May 21 - June 20): People Aren't Always Sure If You Can Keep A Secret
Gemini is ruled by Mercury, which is the planet of communication. That's why you're one of the best communicators in the zodiac. You're charming and highly engaging in conversation. However, since you love to talk, "there are times when discretion makes others feel worried about you being able to keep a secret," Vitale says.
Show people that you're trustworthy. No matter how juicy a piece of gossip may be, if you think people don't trust you, make a point not to play an active part in spreading it around. If you absolutely have to tell someone something, just keep it to the one or two friends you trust most.
Cancer (June 21 - July 22): Your Moods Can Be Unpredictable
Cancers are known for being sensitive and really in touch with their emotions, meaning no one can accuse you of being cold or unfeeling. Your friends love how compassionate and caring you can be. However, your moods may swing back and forth. "You can make others squirm because they never know which version of you they’re going to get," Vitale says.
What you can do to improve: When things aren't going your way, it may be easy for you to become moody and push everyone away. But those friends that you love nurturing on your good days will be there for you on your worst days. So if you tend to get moody and a friend tries to help, check in with yourself before reacting and try to share your feelings with them.
Leo (July 23 - August 22): You Love The Attention So Much, Others Feel Uncomfortable Taking It Away From You
It's no secret that Leos love the spotlight. After all, you're ruled by the Sun, so being the center of attention just comes naturally to you. People do love and appreciate that about you. "Your ability to dominate a conversation is often entertaining," Vitale says. "However, it may not leave room for others to interject." In those instances, your attention-loving nature can be a little too much for some.
What you can do to improve: If this resonates with you, give others a chance to have the spotlight sometimes, and even try encourage it. During conversations, be sure to leave some room for others to get a word in, as well, so it doesn't feel one-sided.
Virgo (August 23 - September 22): You Like To Ask A Lot Of Questions, Which May Be Too Invasive For Some
"A Virgo astrologer friend has been told she asks 'incredibly invasive questions' of her clients," Wright says. That's because Virgos have an insatiable need to know every detail. That's not necessarily a bad thing if you're chatting with someone who's very open with their life — and some people will feel more comfortable opening up to you because you're so interested. But it might get uncomfortable for those who like to keep their life more private.
What you can do to improve: As Wright's friend learned, it's best to pre-face your questions with something like, "You don't have to answer." That way, people won't feel as pressured to respond if they don't want to.
Libra (September 23 - October 22): Making A Decision Can Take A While
Libras want everyone to be happy and get along. There's nothing wrong about wanting peace and harmony among the group, but sometimes you can take that need for balance a little too far. Since you're known for weighing the pros and cons of every situation, making a decision that benefits everyone can take you some time. "Would you like it if you had to wait for endless stretches of time while other people make decisions?" Vitale says. Probably not.
What you can do to improve: Try to get in touch with what your intuition is telling you and remember there's no such thing as making the "perfect" decision. Your friends will love you regardless of whatever choice you decide to make.
Scorpio (October 23 - November 21): Sometimes People Can't Understand Your Need For Privacy
Scorpios are known for being intense and mysterious. While you might not notice that you ask people way more questions about themselves than you like to answer about yourself, they may notice. "Your need for privacy can raise suspicions," Vitale says.
What you can do to improve: Some people just like their privacy, and that's totally OK. You don't have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable, and you're not obligated to share your life story with anyone. The best way to make people feel more comfortable around you though, if you're noticing they're not, is to be open about the fact that you just value your privacy.
Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21): You Have Trouble Staying In One Place For Too Long
You're playful, you like meeting new people, and you love your adventures. You always have some kind of story to tell, so you're definitely a fun person to get to know. While you're known for getting excited about moving from place to place, Vitale says, the people you love might feel more secure around you if you stay put every now and then.
What you can do to improve: You don't have to cut back on your worldly adventures, but instead, practice being fully present when you're with friends and family, so they feel appreciated too.
Capricorn (December 22 - January 19): You're Hard To Read Sometimes
Capricorns are known for being very direct. You're an earth sign, so you may like to keep things pretty low-key, no frills, and grounded. "Unless someone knows you really well, it can be hard to figure out how you really feel," Vitale says.
What you can do to improve: Don't be afraid to show your emotions every now and then, especially if you feel really positively about something. Giving compliments and showing your gratitude can go a long way with the people who love you most.
Aquarius (January 20 - February 18): You May Push Your Ideals On Others
As an aquarius, you operate on your own time, dressing the way you want regardless of the event, and you're constantly going against the norm, which one of the things people love about you most. But as someone who's passionate about their sense of individuality, those who have different opinions than you may feel uncomfortable when you try to get them to see things your way. "In social interactions, Aquarius are impatient with small talk and you often feel like you're being recruited for some cause you have no information about," Wright says. "The good thing about them is you can be yourself, because who are they to judge, right? The tough thing is, if being yourself involves having an opinion different from theirs, they will wear you out by getting you to see their side."
What you can do to improve: Individuality is such a great trait, and it may be important for you to make it known to others. While you shouldn't ever worry about what others think of you, it's important to be mindful of the fact that not everyone sees the world as you do. So just keep being your wonderful unique you, but recognize that not everyone will see it as you do, and that's OK.
Pisces (February 19 - March 20): Presence Doesn't Always Come Easy To You
Pisces are classic daydreamers. You're known for being loving, healing, and above all, super imaginative. Because of your dreamy nature, Vitale says presence doesn't exactly come easy to you.
What you can do to improve: "Focus more when people talk to you, so they won’t feel like you're tuning them out," she says.
As you can see, everyone has certain things about them that can rub people the wrong way, which may be worth knowing if these traits are something you'd like to work on. But always remember, you can't control how people feel around you or how they're going to react — and you may not even want to be around people who don't appreciate your honesty, predictability, or privacy. So although it may be good to be aware of these things and understand why you don't mesh with certain personalities, know that it's always important to just be yourself.
