Finding out that you've been cheated on can be one of the most devastating things that can happen when you're in a relationship. The thing is, no matter how confident you are in yourself, being cheated on can damage your self-esteem in the worst possible ways. As anyone whose ever gone through it would know, infidelity can affect you both mentally and physically. As a new study found, asking yourself this one common question can make things even worse: What did I do wrong?
"Being cheated on can create serious trust issues," NYC-based individual and couples therapist, Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW, tells Bustle. "You may become wary of everyone in your life and start having an intense fear of getting hurt emotionally. You may also feel a lack of connection with people. Instead, you may isolate yourself from socializing with others. Finally, you may experience low self-esteem and thoughts of, 'What did I do wrong?' or "What is wrong with me?' are common."
In a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, researchers from the University of Nevada, Reno wanted to see how people's mental health and behaviors were affected by infidelity. So they conducted a survey of over 200 college students who've been cheated on in the past three months, and were in relationships that averaged nearly two years. Here's what the study found: