When you think of intimacy, you often think of sex. But emotional intimacy is just as important to a relationship. If you and your partner are emotionally distant, you won’t get much out of your interactions, and you may even start to resent each other. But if you can open up and disclose your deepest thoughts and emotions, you’ll be constantly learning about yourself and your partner, which can only make your connection stronger.
“Emotional intimacy is a sense of closeness developed with another person over time,” Dr. Wyatt Fisher, a licensed psychologist in Colorado, tells Bustle. “Usually it involves a feeling of safety and having your inner thoughts and feelings known and accepted. Everyone desires a different level of emotional intimacy based on their attachment experiences growing up and what their ‘normal’ was. Therefore, there's no hard and fast rule on what's enough.”
However, there is such thing as the right amount of emotional intimacy for your relationship — and if you fall short of it, your love life and your sex life will both probably suffer. To find out whether you and your partner are getting enough emotional intimacy, here are some questions that you can ask yourself.
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