The Top 3 Things Men Want For Valentine's Day
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Especially if you're in a new relationship, Valentine's Day gifts can feel like a bit of a minefield. “For a new couple coming up to Valentine’s Day, it can be a confusing time,” James Preece, aka The Dating Guru, tells Bustle. “You don't want to make an over-the-top gesture in case they don’t do the same and it scares them off. On the other hand, you know you have to do ~something~ to mark the day." So what do you do?

"Have a short conversation a few weeks before about what you both might like to do together," he says. "This can save embarrassment later on and gives you something to look forward to. Spending time together on Valentine’s Day is more important than anything, so make it count."

But even for couples who have been together a while, it's stressful. What does someone actually want? Well, online cash back shopping site Splender surveyed 1,000 Americans to figure out what they actually want this Valentine's Day. If you're dreading it, you're not alone— 82 percent of men and 75 percent of women said they didn't like the holiday. But a glimpse into what men would actually like to receive can help. Here were the most gifts that most of the men wanted.


A Nice Dinner Out

The classic Valentine's Day celebration (which was also the most desired among women) got 18 percent of men's votes. It's simple, easy, and can be as fancy (or not fancy) as you want.



It's not just for the ladies. And why should it be? Chocolate is basically what run through my veins and I don't see why men should be any less excited about it. In fact, 14 percent said that it would be their choice.


An "Intimate Experience With A Partner"

Dim the lights and light the candles — 13 percent said they'd like to get down. Or at least, get intimate. It didn't make the top three for women, but it did for men, so I guess we are a little more passionate about chocolate than the dudes.

It's a pretty straightforward list, though be warned that jewelry, tools, clothing, and homemade gifts were all really unpopular. Really, you should do whatever you and your partner want. But if you have doubts, classic options and some naughty time seem to be the way to go.