We've all heard that being open about your feelings is necessary for a healthy relationship. But too often, we decide it's easier to just keep things to ourselves than to risk bringing them up and getting an unfavorable response. That's why there are so many things people don't tell their partners but should.
"Closeness and connection to a romantic partner essentially involves setting your heart down on a block, and then hoping your partner will pick it up and cradle it lovingly rather than squish it underfoot," Holly Parker, PhD, author of If We're Together, Why Do I Feel So Alone?, tells Bustle. "And because it’s so human to want to self-protect, the temptation to don armor around that heart can be irresistible, even in a solidly committed relationship. And yet, the act of letting that guard down and allowing our partner to see more of who we are is linked to happiness in a relationship."
In fact, the things that are scariest to tell your partner are often the most rewarding things to talk about. When we share personal things with people, we feel closer to them and develop more trust in them. Here are some things couples tend to hide from each other but could benefit from divulging.