If you haven't been victim to the person you're dating seeing disappearing on you for no apparent reason or you've done the vanishing act yourself, you probably know someone who has been ghosted. While sometimes ghosting a date is warranted (aka they're making you feel uncomfortable), in most cases, it's a pretty cowardly way to cut ties if you've been dating a while. Unfortunately, it's just a thing that tends to happen a lot today. But according to dating app The League, who looked at the ghosting behavior among their users, ghosting really isn't as "spooky" as it seems.
According to The League, it's actually a pretty acceptable move if you're in the very early stages of dating, meaning after one or two dates at the most. "We’re all busy and trying to juggle dating and matching with someone with 1,000 other things that go on in our daily lives," Meredith Davis, Head of Communications at The League, tells Bustle. "After three dates is where it gets messy and people get their feelings hurt. Before three dates, not texting is a pretty obvious sign that you’re not interested."
After three dates, Davis says it's nice to give the person closure by sending them something along the lines of, Hey, you're an awesome person, but I'm not sure we're the right fit. "By this point you’ve probably shared a combined six to 10 hours with this person, so definitely let them know it’s a no-go!" she says.
While ghosting is pretty common, it's pretty interesting to think about who's doing it the most. Unlike people might assume, it's actually not single millennials. According to The League, here are the users that ghost the most: