If you’ve ever caught yourself wondering "Why do I cheat?", you're not the only one. Cheaters' motives aren't always obvious even to themselves. Often, they reflect deeply rooted emotions and beliefs about ourselves, our partners, and our relationships.
A YouGov poll found that around one in five Americans have cheated at some point, so if you’ve cheated, you’re far from alone. There could be a thousand reasons behind this, and only you can really know why, but one thing we can probably say is that it’s not purely physical. “People often think the main reason people cheat are related to sexual needs,” relationship coach Laney Zukerman tells Bustle. “Though sex may play a role, the majority of affairs often start out as emotional affairs due to an addiction to attention and a proneness to boredom in any long term relationship they are in.”
Once you’ve cheated, the first step to move forward is to figure out whether or not to tell your partner. That’ll depend on the situation, but generally, experts say you should keep it to yourself if you don’t plan to repeat it and don’t believe they’ll find out. The next step will mostly likely be to either end your relationship or work on repairing it. Either way, understanding why you’ve cheated is a good start. So, here are some possible underlying causes of infidelity.