If the new dating trend breadcrumbing has you down, I totally get it. It sucks. If you're not familiar, breadcrumbing is basically when someone you're seeing or just messaging leads you along but (frustratingly) refuses to set any definite plans. It can be messaging, talking to you on social media, alluding to plans that never materialize— it's just enough to keep you going and interested. And it's a real pain to deal with.
Now, the easiest way is to not get too tied into it in the first place. "If you met someone online who talks about getting together, yet when you suggest that you find a mutually acceptable time and place to meet in person they are never available, RUN," Toni Coleman, LCSW, CMC, psychotherapist and relationship coach tells Bustle. "You can only be breadcrumbed if you go along with it." It's great advice, but it only works if you see the breadcrumbing coming. Sometimes you don't even realize what's happening until suddenly you're in the middle of it. And you feel like you've put so much time and energy into this person that you don't want to back out— so you're all the more likely to jump at the next breadcrumb.
So what can you do? I 100 percent think you should call them out on it. You don't have to be dramatic or accusatory, you can just say something like "Hey, you keep suggesting plans but don't seem to be interested in actually meeting up. I think it would be nice to hang out but if that isn't happening I'm going to bow out now, no hard feelings." Then if they really want to go out with you, they'll have to commit to a time and place.
Why is confrontation important? Well, here's why you should confront a breadcrumber, because you're worth it: