9 Blow Job Tricks You Should Try, According To Experts

When people talk about sex and foreplay, there are usually things that some of us enjoy and others don't. Some people may love it a little rough, while others want slow and romantic. Some may have very sensitive nipples, while others may prefer having other areas concentrated on. You learn more about pleasure and your partner's pleasure with practice. And what we are into will likely change with each person we get intimate with. One of the best parts of getting to know someone is getting to know what turns them on, what doesn't, and what turns you on together. One common practice is oral sex. But a lot of the time, you may be wondering how to give a better blow job.

First and foremost, make it something you love and get pleasure from yourself, not a JOB. Like with all things, practice makes perfect. Here are a few tips for giving a good BJ. Your partner will thank you. (And, well, me!)

1. Have Fun, But Don't Fake It

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One of the most common needs that men have expressed about oral sex it is that we enjoy giving it. Dr. Yvonka, a clinical sexologist with Jasmine.com, says that they like to see that we enjoy giving them pleasure that we think they have the sexiest and most delicious member out there. Be careful with the acting, though, because they know the difference between real and fake enthusiasm. If you aren’t enjoying it, spare both of you the trouble and just opt out. Although I highly recommend always giving it a quick try before ruling it out, even if you feel you aren’t entirely in the mood, because most of the time, giving him pleasure will arouse you as well.

2. Hands, Tongue, Lips, Cheeks, Chest — Throw It All In There

Really make the experience yours as much as it is his, says Dr. Yvonka. "Use your hands, your tongue, your lips, all of the above. Rub it against your cheek, move it gently down to your nipples, really show that you are enjoying it. This will have them squirming with excitement. You can even use some teeth. No, do not bite down, but if you do a slight nibble just to spike the sensitivity in between, it helps wake up the nerves a little." Be careful with this. Many men have an immense fear surrounding teeth, and if you don’t know them well enough, they may react negatively. So be in tune with the experience and feel your partner out before introducing teeth.

3. Keep It Wet

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Lube isn’t just important for penetrative sex; it can really keep things feeling good here as well. Says Dr. Yvonka: "Usually, the saliva should suffice, but sometimes if you were drinking or participating in anything else that increases dehydration, we can’t rely on our saliva too much. In that case, use some flavored or yummy-tasting lube to make it fun for yourself as well," says Dr. Yvonka. Coconut oil can be great for this.

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4. Don't Forget His Balls

While some guys would prefer that you never touch their balls, most go crazy for it. "They are very sensitive. You can use your hands while your mouth is on their cock, or you can suck on the balls themselves. Change up what you are doing, and watch their reaction to see what they like the best," says adult entertainment performer Casey Calvert.

5. Squeeze The Base

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Penises are a lot tougher than you might think, and the two most sensitive places are the tip and the base. "So while you are sucking on the tip, use your hand to press or squeeze the base. If you want to press, try both the area right above and right below the shaft. This works especially well for guys with bigger [penises] — you can pleasure the whole thing without deep throating," says Calvert.

6. Increase Friction

"Suck away using your usual enthusiasm, but crank it up a notch by increasing the friction without straining your jaw. Use your index finger and thumb to pinch your lips together to ”cheat” and create a tighter squeeze!" says Astroglide's resident sexologist, Dr. Jess.

7. Try The Prayer Position

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This one is from The New Sex Bible , says Dr. Jess: "Place your hands in prayer position, apply a generous serving of lube and attach them to your lips to create an elongated version of your mouth. Your thumbs should be against your lips and your index fingers will come up along your nose. Lower over his head pinky-first as you suck him into your wet, tight palms and mouth. Stroke from tip to base, building speed, tension, and suction as you slide up and down," Dr. Jess says.

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Add some tight pulses at the base, and twirl around subtly as you reach the midsection of his shaft with your fingers. Your tight hands will grip his shaft as your lips and tongue pass over his frenulum.

8. Make A Tunnel

"Squeeze him between your teeth, but pad your upper teeth with your lubed-up upper lip and your lower teeth with your tongue so that it feels like a tight, wet tunnel," says Dr. Jess.

Looking for some new sex positions to try? Here are the very best for smaller penises (trust us):

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9. Share Your Enthusiasm

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Per sex expert Dana Myers: "While there are certainly a thousand fancy blow job tricks to try, the truth is that you don’t need to use any crazy moves he’s never seen before. The key to a truly epic blow job is ENTHUSIASM. Bringing real enthusiasm into oral sex (by being fully present and genuinely desirous to deliver oral pleasure) goes way beyond any "deep throat" fantasies. Connect with your eyes with a look that says you’re hungry for him. Go slow, then fast, then slow again. Sound out a few "Mmmmm"s as if you were licking a delicious ice cream cone. All this will show him you’re not there out of obligation, but you’re there because you truly want to be ... all of which will make him feel desired and confident."

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