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Courtney Love Didn't Mind Missing Frances' Wedding

by Lisa Fogarty

Few things the singer has been doing since 1994 surprise anyone anymore, but Courtney Love's reaction to not attending her daughter Frances Bean Cobain's wedding is beyond strange — yes, even for her. Cobain, 23, reportedly married musician and longtime love Isaiah Silva, who is the frontman of the band The Eeries, last week, but their ceremony was secretive, small, and intimate — so intimate that Love only reportedly found out about the nuptials after her daughter and Silva exchanged vows.

Pretty harsh, you might be thinking. But the mother and daughter have had their share of trials and tribulations, which I would argue hit peak strangeness in 2012 when Love accused Dave Grohl of seducing Cobain. Disgusted and fed up, Cobain did something she rarely does and publicly denounced her mom, saying, "I have never been approached by Dave Grohl in more than a platonic way. I'm in a monogamous relationship and very happy.Twitter should ban my mother." (For the record, Grohl's rep denied the claims, telling Gawker, "Unfortunately Courtney is on another hateful Twitter rant. These new accusations are upsetting, offensive and absolutely untrue.")

So, yeah, there's probably a whole lot people don't know that might explain why Cobain, possibly, feared her mother would show up and create drama on what is supposed to be the happiest day of her life. Sure, she's your mom, but that doesn't mean continuing to try and have a toxic relationship with her, which is what this sounds like, is a good or healthy thing for Cobain.

Anyway, don't cry for Love. She was totally busy this weekend, anyway. The singer and actress, who is currently starring in a small musical theater production called Kansas City Choir Boy with Todd Almond, made it known on Instagram that she had better things to do with her time:

That cute guy is James Norley, a model and actor who has, so far, one acting credit to his name on IMDb: a short called Hollywood Temptations. I'm not sure if Love is trying to help him with his career or actually dating him or what, but those hashtags. #Worthit? #Worthflakingonanythingfor? Is Love suggesting she was invited to Cobain's wedding and blew it off so she could spend some quality time with a young #stud? Because, dude, that is so bonkers I just want to run out, find Cobain, and give her about a million, gazillion hugs right now.

Even if you weren't invited to your daughter's wedding — and even if that made you so angry you felt like your head was about to explode — wouldn't the appropriate response from a 51-year-old woman who should know better be to figure out why your daughter feels the need to ostracize you and then try and correct the problem? Love seems more concerned about her public image that her personal relationship with the one person in her life who matters most.

And, if true, the strangest thing about that is that her response to being a no-show at Cobain's wedding isn't exactly helping her image. I sincerely hope Love and Cobain can resolve their differences and come to an understanding before she misses out on opportunities to be involved in the lives of her future grandchildren.