We've all heard that weddings should have a wedding theme — there's the beach wedding theme, the rustic wedding theme, the vintage wedding theme, and so on and so forth. But as popular as wedding themes have become in social media, I've noticed a lot of the couples I mentor are steering clear of wedding themes altogether. In fact, there are plenty of reasons you don't need a wedding theme at all.
I'm hearing more and more couples describe their weddings by the feeling and atmosphere they want their wedding to invoke, rather than what they want the wedding decor to look like. What's said often now is "We want our wedding to be laid back, fun, and a time for all our closest family and friends to get to know one another." Understandably, a wedding theme isn't an essential part of that equation. Sure, it's important to consider wedding stationery and wedding decor, but for the couples I work with, it's rarely one of their top wedding priorities.
Many couples know wedding themes aren't important to them, but sometimes well-meaning friends and family who ask about the wedding have yet to realize that wedding themes aren't a necessity. I'll often have a couple who is 100 percent on the right track planning their wedding say, "So-and-so asked us what our wedding theme is, and we didn't know what to say. Do we need to have a wedding theme?" Obviously, I always say, "No, definitely not," and here's why: forgoing a wedding theme actually opens up the possibilities for your wedding.
1. You have more options
When you're not restricted to a single theme, you always have more options when it comes to food, drinks, and decor. You can choose whatever colors and flavors you want, without worrying whether or not it will take away or distract from your overall theme.
2. Your wedding feels sincere
Wedding themes can sometimes feel like a staged show or a production when everything matches perfectly. When things don't match perfectly, weddings feel organic — just like life and your love.
3. Guests get to know you better as a couple
When weddings don't have a single theme, guests leave feeling like they got to know more than one side of the couple, and have a deeper understanding of what brought you two together.
4. It's less work
If your goal is to have everything at your wedding connect back to one theme, it means you often have to spend double the amount of time searching for things that work with that theme.
5. Your wedding will be one-of-a-kind
Wedding themes have a way of putting couples in a box. How many couples can summarize their love and soon-to-be marriage in just one theme? By incorporating multiple interests into your wedding day, you are guaranteed there will only be one wedding just like it — and that's yours.
So next time someone asks about your wedding theme, feel free to let them know you're forgoing the wedding theme entirely and will be sharing all the things you and your partner love most with guests. Good food, great music, and the best of company — what more could any celebration need?