In a recent Imgur post, L.A.-based newlywed Molly Murphy admitted, “I've been depressed lately.” Coming back from a trip to San Francisco, she returned home to find that her husband had left a note on the mirror for her, titled “Reasons I love my wife.” In a moving love letter, he lists 15 reasons, ranging from the silly to the serious, that he loves and supports his wife, and the whole thing is so stinking sweet that I challenge even the most skeptical among you not to let out an involuntary “aww” when you read it.
Here’s the list:
1. she is my best friend
2. she never quits on herself or me
3. she gives me time to work on my crazy projects
4. she makes me laugh, everyday
5. she is gorgeous
6. she accepts the crazy person i am
7. she's the kindest person i know
8. she's got a beautiful singing voice
9. she's gone to a strip club with me
10. she has experienced severe tragedy yet is the most optimistic person about humanity i know
11. she has been fully supportive about my career choices and followed me each time
12. without realizing it, she makes me want to do more for her than i have ever wanted to do for anyone
13. she's done an amazing job at advancing her career path
14. small animals make her cry
15. she snorts when she laughs
In a post that has now been viewed almost 728 thousand times, Murphy explains,
I've been juggling a LOT lately. Trying to do well at work. Just got married. Couldn't afford a wedding. Family is sparse. Falling out with friends, yaddadyadda. But, the thing is, amidst all the struggle, my husband has relentlessly tried to cheer me up.
She admits that her depression has sometimes made her a difficult person to be around:
I've not been the easiest person to deal with. In fact, sometimes I've lost all hope and even taken my frustration out on my new husband. But he somehow forgives me every time. I have a long journey ahead of me, and I know he probably realizes I'm depressed. But he holds my hand, and he tries his best.
She explains what happened when she saw the note her husband, Tim, had left for her:
Today when I came home from a trip to SF, I flopped onto my bed in tears. I looked to my left, and saw these words painted all across my mirror. I think he wanted me to remember how much he loves me. Because he knows how quickly I forget. He knows I struggle to see good in the world, and especially the good in myself. But here it is. A testament and gesture of his love. Damn, I needed it today...
Murphy acknowledges that it takes more than a sweet note to cure depression — but having support from loved ones is invaluable:
I'm not saying mental illness is cured by nice words on a mirror. In fact, it takes professional care, love, empathy, sometimes even medication just to cope. Many people struggle with it mental illness - more than we probably even realize. … Show them kindness and remind them things can and WILL get better.
In a follow up, Murphy adds,
I'm still struggling, but I'm glad I have my other half to help me make it through. It may just be a few words on my mirror, but I'll look at them when I wake up and know I'm not alone. I'll know I have my best friend, my co-pilot in life to help guide me through.
Say it with me now: Awwwww.