This One Trick May Change Your Sex Life

Thanks to the fire research being done at, a site dedicated to crowdsourced data-driven women's orgasm techniques, researchers think they've found the one basic, common element to achieving multiple orgasms. In a survey of 1.055 women aged 18-95 (sorry teens and tweens, I guess your orgasm techniques don't count yet, even though I'm pretty sure you'll still be masturbating the exact same way in 70 years), 47 percent of them reported that they can regularly have multiple orgasms, meaning, "multiple orgasms without taking a break to rest between them," during sex.

While it may seem obvious to some (pretty sure Eisenhower Era butches were swapping this gem of wisdom at covert gay bars long before science confirmed it), the trick is fairly straightforward: do different stuff.

In the interviews conducted by OMGYES about the survey, researchers found that most women who weren't having multiple orgasms believed they couldn't have them because they felt too sensitive after coming to continue being stimulated for another orgasm.

And this makes total sense. After having your clit gently (or not so gently, as the case may be) fondled to orgasm, it can feel like The Literal Worst to have someone keep touching it.

But the key to multiple orgasms is to switch up your technique, so that you aren't stimulating the same part of the vulva the exact same way for the next orgasm.

"Treat the body after the first orgasm like it's a whole new body, with different likes and dislikes," OMGYES's researchers told Mic.

So, for example, after giving someone a so-called "clitoral orgasm" via cunnilingus, switch to penetrating them with fingers or sex toys for awhile to build up a second orgasm. After a small break from intense, focused stimulation, the clit will often feel raring to go again!

Or, if you've just given someone an intense G-spot orgasm, switch to stimulating traditionally "non-orgasmic" parts of the vulva: the inner and outer labia, the spot above the clitoris, and other clit- and G-spot-adjacent areas.

In other words, there seems to be an over-emphasis on direct contact and a misconception surrounding its necessity for an orgasm to occur. You don't always need to be zeroed in on a conventionally "orgasmic" organ or spot for the orgasm to occur. Another technique OMGYES focuses on is "hinting," which is described as "passing by and only occasionally indulging" the clitoris or the g-spot or whatever else the "target" erogenous zone is. This can help build arousal without overstimulating and thus, desensitizing, the bit that you're playing with.

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