12 Techniques Women Use To Have An Orgasm, According To OMGYES
According to a 2015 survey by Cosmo, only 57 percent of women can orgasm during sex. But when it comes to how often the male partners of these women orgasm, we’re looking at a whopping 95 percent. So unfair, right? Although there are many reasons why a woman can’t orgasm during sex, much of it probably has to do with the fact that 75 percent of women need clitoral stimulation to climax and if that stimulation isn’t just right, achieving an orgasm is tricky business.
Enter: OMGYES, an online site where both men and women can get the tips they need to make reaching an orgasm a reality.
As Mic reports, cofounder, Rob Perkins, was having a chat with his friend Lydia Daniller about just how elusive the female orgasm can be. Yes, we know it exists, but it’s the actual harnessing of it, and harnessing of it every time that seems to be the issue. Daniller told Mic:
We're experiencing something of a hangover from our previous generation, where it's still hard for people to see women as sexual beings on their own. It's fairly new that women are seen as having their own desires.
So Perkins and Daniller did what anyone would do in the name of trying to bring more attention to the female orgasm: They talked to hundreds of women about techniques, desires, and basically what gets them off. Then they got together with researchers at Indiana University to poll over a 1,000 women between 18 and 95, to get their input on what works for them. They were even able to enlist 30 women willing to demonstrate their favorite techniques on camera. Basically, they left no stone unturned.
Not only did they get the insight they were looking for, but they were also able to put names to the various techniques that women use to make themselves come, either solo or with a partner. Then it was all compiled into a video that can be watched on OMGYES, because sharing the goods on this topic is important business.
Here are some of the awesome orgasm tips and techniques that you can find if you jump on over to OMGYES. Keep in mind, you might already be using some of these techniques, but at least now you have a name to go with it!
Personally, I love "edging" and it’s a practice I use often. Edging is the technique in which you bring yourself close to an orgasm, then stop. In edging over and over ― bringing yourself close, then letting go ― you’re guaranteeing a bigger orgasm, because your body literally bursts with pleasure when it’s finally allowed to release. According to OMGYES’ research, 65.5 percent of women practice this technique.
"Hinting" is another form of teasing, that about 70 percent of women report that they practice. In hinting, the clit and the vaginal opening are given some attention, but not a lot, as stimulation is avoided until later on during masturbation or sex. Again, it leads to stronger orgasms.
For those who like to stick to a plan and not rock the boat, the “consistency” technique, in which an orgasm is built by sticking to the same consistency. I imagine this is one that appeals to those who have vibrators and like to keep them on the same speed until climax is achieved. For 65 percent of women, this is a preferred method.
According to OMGYES, the “surprise” technique, one that 70 percent of women practice, is defined as “defying expectation to enhance pleasure.” What I deduce this to mean is taking on a new approach to stimulation, perhaps one that you haven’t tried before, and getting one hell out of surprise by the end result.
Another common technique, at least for 80 percent of women, is known as “rhythm.” Again, rhythm is a technique that can also be easily practiced by either using a vibrator that provides a rhythm option or it can also be done with your fingers, by looping the same motion over and over until there’s an orgasm.
Of course the name gives this one away, but “multiples” is the practice of stimulating the clit and vagina in order to reach multiple orgasm. The research by OMGYES found that almost 50 percent of women are able to achieve multiple orgasms. That’s a very impressive amount.
For “accenting,” women focus on a specific motion in how they reach an orgasm. Whether that motion is a tapping, circulation, or whatever feels good, 40 percent of women do this technique.
In “framing,” women focus on how reaching an orgasm is something that has more to do with the brain than the body. Because, let’s be honest, we’re pretty creative and can conjure up some great scenarios in our brains, so it only makes sense that 90 percent of women would got this route.
When a woman practices “staging” she adheres to the sensitivity changes in her body and adjusts them to reach an orgasm. If she needs less stimulation, she backs off; if she needs more, she’ll step it up. This is also a fairly common practice with 90 percent of women reportedly using this method to orgasm.
For 65 percent of women “layering,” in which “indirect pleasure” is focused on the surrounding areas is a technique that is used to reach an orgasm.
True to its name, “orbiting” is all about circling the clit in all the ways that feels good, eventually leading to an orgasm. Sixty percent of women report this technique as the one they use most often.
Lastly, although certainly not at the bottom of the totem pole since 90 percent of women practice it, is “signaling.” As OMGYES defines it, signaling is a style of “giving and reading feedback.” In doing so, orgasm is achieved by processing these signals and responding to them.
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