Crushes are pretty frustrating, no matter how old you get (and yes, I can personally verify that you do still get crushes as an adult). However, there are a few weird ways to know if someone likes you more than just a friend — even if they're not necessarily super forthcoming about their feelings.
It's a classic situation: you like someone, you think about them a ton, but you just can't get a solid read on whether or not they return your feelings. And sometimes it's way more complicated than just being direct and asking them point blank. Maybe you've been friends a long time and don't want to make things awkward, or maybe you work together and don't want to run the risk of creating a potentially uncomfortable situation if it turns out they don't like you in that way.
Bottom line, sometimes it can be really helpful to feel confident that another person likes you back before you broach the whole, "I have feelings for you" conversation. It might not sound mature, but it's a reality. If there's a person in your life you're having trouble getting a read on, here are nine ways to know if they like you more than they think.
1. They Mirror
According to a study from the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, subtle mimicry indicates attraction. This means that if someone mirrors the way you're standing, or crosses you legs when you cross your leg, a physical attraction could be very real.
2. Their Feet Are Always Pointed In Your Direction
According to behavioral expert Vanessa Van Edwards in a piece for The Science of People, feet pointed towards you is often a strong sign of attraction, as people will usually orient their body towards the source of their desire.
3. The Find Excuses To Touch
According to social and personality psychologist Dr. Jeremy Nicholson in a piece for Psychology Today, when someone likes you'll they'll generally go out of their way to find excuses to touch you. Maybe they'll try to get you to play a game that involves touching hands, or will squeeze by you in a tight space in the office when they could have gone a different route.
4. They Always Laugh At Your Jokes
In another Psychology Today piece, evolutionary psychologist Norman Li noted that whether or not someone laughs at your jokes is a major "interest indicator." He noted that this is important because opting not to laugh can be a sign of active dislike.
5. They Go Out Of Their Way To Be Near You
On her YouTube channel, professional psychotherapist Dr. Kimberly Moffit noted that people who like you will often go out of their way to be in your vicinity. She noted this doesn't mean they're necessarily going to be trying to stand two inches from your face, but rather they'll often go to parties and events they know you'll be at, or make excuses for you to do activities together.
6. They Ask You Question
Moffit also said that another telltale sign is if they ask you a lot of questions about yourself and really seem to be listening to the answers. For better or worse, in today's busy world people don't often take the time to really learn about other people unless they really have a vested interest.
7. They Remember Important Dates
A compilation piece for ReLuv, a site devoted to relationship knowledge, noted that when someone likes you'll they'll often remember things like your birthday, or the fact that you plan to go on vacation at a specific time. People who aren't your close friends and family don't generally remember those details unless they're really paying attention.
8. They Have Trouble Making Eye Contact
This is a personal tip that just comes from years of having crushes. When someone is on the shyer side, they very well might feel incredibly awkward around you when they like you. I've often found when I really like someone but am trying to "be cool" I can't seem to make direct eye contact with them, and I've definitely noticed this in other people as well.
9. They Find Reasons To Hang Out
This is another small detail that could have a big meaning. Does the person always try to create opportunities to hang out? Maybe they forward you a link to tickets to your favorite band, or reference an exhibit they know you really want to see? This can be a big indicator that they're secretly just trying to score some time with you.
Figuring out what's going on inside another person's head is definitely never easy, but when it comes to crushes, there are a few solid ways to get a better gauge. If someone you know exhibits a lot of the above behavior, odds are good they may like you more than they're letting on.
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