If there isn't some kind of adage that the things you say when you're angry reveal uncomfortable truths about the kind of person that you are, then it should certainly become one — especially in the case of the ever-controversial Chris Brown. Ever since Brown was released from jail, he's been up and down in terms of behavior. For every instance that he's guest starring at the ESPY Awards with Drake and releasing new music, his name is being tied yet another fight in a nightclub or wild party in California. However, on Monday, Brown insulted Adrienne Bailon on Instagram after she made disparaging remarks about him and his girlfriend Karrueche Tran. I really wouldn't have much of a problem with that if it weren't for the language that Brown used during the rant.
According to Us Weekly, the original incendiary conversation took place on Bailon's show, The Real, where Bailon and Tamar Braxton spoke about Tran and Brown's on-off relationship and Brown's romantic history as part of a larger dialogue about dangerous relationships. "You don't think that some of her friends also reap the benefits of her dating Chris Brown?" said Bailon. "They want to be a part of that circle. Really, are they going to tell you, 'Leave that?' …You want to have real friends who tell you the truth."
In response, MTV included a transcript of the now-deleted Instagram rant that Brown posted alongside a picture of Bailon. It read:
"BRING THAT ASS HERE BOY" ADRIENNE BAILON…. You ole trout mouth ass b****. U tried it. Won’t u the same b**** that was f***ing wit married men? U also was keeping up with the Kardashians! U can’t talk about relationship goals when u don’t even have life goals. Ain’t you a cheetah girl? Last time u was important n****s was riding spinners and wearing 6x talk Ts. You the same b**** having threesomes like the rest of these hoes. U tried it too Tamara Braxton. U take the role of the ugly sister. It’s always the people wit no career that talk all the shit. Dat plastic surgery f***ed yo face up. B**** look like she always saying “huh”? Muppet face ass! #basicb****problems #thotiannas I don’t even need a photo for Tamar, that b***** is beat in every photo! #icanmakeabrokeb****richbutidontf***witbrokeb****es
I understand that Brown was angry. I understand that Brown was defending himself and Tran. I understand that Brown has a right to do so. What I do not understand is why Brown's anger had to rely on misogynistic language, insulting Bailon and her appearance and her sexuality to make a point. The use of hateful phrases like "ole trout mouth ass b****" or "like the rest of these hoes", calling Braxton ugly and saying she looks "beat" in all of her photos, that was entirely the wrong way to make his point.
If you needed further proof that the singer handled the situation in the worst kind of way, it's worth nothing that this deleted post has since been replaced with a photograph of Tran's more mature response to the controversy, along with the caption, "She a lot nicer than me."
At this point, it hardly matters what one thinks about Brown or about Tran or about their relationship with one another. The fact of the matter is that one of them handled the situation with maturity and class and the other one resorted to hateful, sexist speech specifically designed to attack Braxton and Bailon for the fact that they are women rather than for what they actually said. It's hard to imagine Brown would have called a man who criticized his relationship with Tran a "Muppet face ass" or discuss plastic surgery or threesomes like they are all something to be ashamed of.
I'm not saying he had to take the moral high ground here, even though that is always my preference when it comes to celebrity feuds. Instead, I'm saying that the fact that his anger is tied in so closely with misogynistic language is troubling and something that he really needs to work on if he expects anyone to respect him again.