Reality Steve 'Bachelor' Spoilers Are Not For Me — And They Shouldn't Be For You Either

I've been a fan of The Bachelor/Bachelorette for several years and now, but I've only been an entertainment writer for one. In the beginning of my love for the show, it was easy to avoid spoilers about the ending. But it's a lot harder now that my job entails writing about and researching the show for a living. But still, throughout it all I don't read Reality Steve's Bachelor spoilers; no matter what. It can be tempting to want a leg up on viewers when you're writing about the series, but in the end I think it's much more worth it to watch the show as it was intended.

Spoilers, in general, are hard to avoid in today's Internet-obsessed culture. But spoiling the end of The Bachelor is different than learning about a Pretty Little Liars episode a few hours early, or even ruining the ending of a popular movie like Gone Girl. Spoiling the end of a reality show like The Bachelor is a bigger deal than learning the twist ending of a fictional work, because the end of The Bachelor is entirely contingent on the process it takes to get there.

Throughout The Bachelor, I like to see how the relationships develop over the course of the show. That way, when you get to the end you can see if you agree or disagree with his choice. Should he have picked a different woman whom you thought he had more chemistry with? Was it obvious the whole time that the one he did pick was perfect for him? If you look up the ending ahead of time, you don't get to watch the organic progression of the Bachelor's love for his fiancee. Instead you'll spend the show going "of course" whenever he and that person share a romantic moment. It takes the romance and spontaneity out of the viewing experience. 

Beyond that, though, it makes the show more boring to know the outcome. Rose ceremonies won't be filled with tension, you'll know which women claiming to be in love don't actually end up with him, and ultimately what's the point of watching if you already know who he goes home with? 

I think the "journey" (yes, I said it) is the whole point of the show. There's a reason that in real life you ask happy couples how they met. Sure, it's nice to see that they're in love now, but isn't it also fun to learn how their relationship started and what lead them to the blissful state they're in today?

Besides, what if Reality Steve gets it wrong? (It happens sometimes.) You'll have spent the whole season thinking one thing only to have the rug pulled out from under you. You might even feel like he picked the wrong person because you were too focused on the relationship you thought would win to notice his chemistry with someone else.

Also, how can you hone your reality TV guessing skills if you spoil the ending for yourself? You'll never build up that ability to guess the winner on night one if you don't practice doing that. It's one of my favorite things to do, and spoiler-readers are ruining that fun experience of being right at the end. (Who doesn't love being right?)

I understand the temptation, and I certainly don't judge anyone who reads spoilers. But watching the journey to love is half the fun, if not more. It's not about who wins the race, it's about what happened along the way. So my advice to you this Bachelor season is to try to avoid spoilers if you can. Watch a season the way it was intended to be seen, and enjoy the ride because it's sure to be a pretty entertaining one.

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