is often made about figuring out what men and women really
want for Valentine's Day, but you know what? It turns out the answers
aren't all that complicated. Matchmaking service It's Just Lunch (which you might remember from that poll about whether sports and relationships mix) surveyed 1,000 of its users to get to the bottom of this
often-considered question — and not only are the results not
surprising, they're actually kind of comforting. Generally, it seems
like we all just want to have a nice meal and spend some quality time
with our loved ones. Isn't that nice? When you get past all the
floofy decorations, florid prose, and questionable boxes of
chocolates that inevitably appear during the first few weeks of
February, that's exactly what Valentine's Day should be about:
Appreciating the people you love.
It's Just Lunch's survey provides a pretty clear snapshot of how we view Valentine's Day, from how we feel about it to what we like to do to celebrate it. Check out a few highlights below; then scroll down to see the whole thing arranged in a handy-dandy infographic. Cupid may on occasion be stupid, but sometimes, he's not too bad of a guy.
1. We have a love-hate relationship with Valentine's Day.
Almost one-third of both men and women said they feel “indifferent” about V Day; 13 percent even went so far as to say that it made them feel “miserable” or “dreadful.” At the same time, though, 70 percent of men and women also said they expect to spend February 14th with someone if they've been on at least four dates together. In short: We hate it, and yet we still feel compelled to celebrate it. Humans are such fickle creatures, are we not?
2. We'd rather celebrate with experiences than with things...
This makes a lot of sense; it's often said that you'll remember the experiences you spend your money on, rather than the objects you bought with it. The top date choices for Valentine's Day festivities included dinner at a restaurant that holds some significance for your relationship, or a weekend getaway. Furthermore, a whopping 50 percent of men said the best gift they could receive was sex.
3. ...But we do still appreciate tokens of love.
Although 17 percent of men and six percent of women said they don't want gifts at all, most people kind of appreciate them. Generally it's preferred for them to be commensurate with the length of the relationship: 59 percent of men and 49 percent of women said they don't expect gifts if they've been dating for less than a month, but the percentages drop when you reach the one-to-three months tier. People who date ladies, take note: Only nine percent of women said they like getting lingerie as gifts. By and large, we prefer flowers (43 percent), jewelry (27 percent), and tickets to events (20 percent).
4. And if you're going to gift flowers, give them to your honey in person.
Since flowers are so popular, It's Just Lunch went ahead and asked everyone where they'd prefer those flowers to be delivered. The lion's share — 45 percent of men and 58 percent of women — said that they should be given in person, wherever that may be. So much for having a bouquet delivered to the office.
Check out the full infographic below, and head on over to It's Just Lunch for more Valentine's Day survival tips.