In keeping with the theme that couples just can’t seem to get on the same page when it comes to certain aspects of their relationships, a new study has found that men and women want to have sex at different times of day. Yesterday I told you about “desire discrepancies,” and how to deal with them, and today there's a study shedding light on the fact that women are horny at night and men want to get it on in the morning. Why is it so hard for us to come together on this one? (Pun!)
Not only does the study find what part of the day men and women prefer to have sex, but it’s narrowed it down to an exact time: 11:21 p.m. for women and 7:45 a.m. for men. Those seem to the moments when each gender is at their optimum horniness.
The study of 2300 people conducted by UK sex toy brand, Lovehoney, found that not only is there a desire discrepancy in time, but the majority of people experience it, too. Of those surveyed, 68 percent of women and 63 percent of men have dated someone whose sex drive didn’t match their own.
But despite those numbers, people tend to finally settle down and commit to those with similar feelings on the frequency they should be having sex, with two-thirds of women and half of men reporting that both them and their current partner want sex in equal amounts and just as often.
While there is a 15 hour difference between those optimum sexual times for men and women there is a bit of hope in there, too. Yes, the majority of men want to have sex between 6 a.m. and 9 a.m. and most women want it between 11 p.m. and 2 a.m., the next most popular block of time for both genders is between 9 p.m. and 11 p.m.. So at least heterosexual couples have that going for them.
Discussing these preferences early on can save everyone a lot of hassle. If you’re a woman whose need to have sex between 2 a.m. and 6 a.m. is pretty much your lifeline to happiness, then you may want to find a man in that three percent who feels the same way. No one wants to just hope that their optimum sex times will naturally collide eventually, then fall in love, get a cat, and realize it was all wishful thinking. If you address it head-on, then you can avoid being a statistic, and having to fight over who gets the cat on the weekends. Win-win.