Amanda is a writer who divides her time between NYC and Paris. She's a regular contributor to Glamour, Bolde, Livingly, and Mic. Other bylines include: Harper's Bazaar, The Atlantic, Forbes, Elle, Huffington Post, The Frisky, and BlackBook. Her greatest dream is to win a cheesecake eating contest while holding a baby panda.
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7 Signs You Deserve More Than What Your Partner Is Giving You

Whether it's brand new or long-term, all relationships should involve a give and take. And, in that give and take, ultimately, each partner should be giving equal amounts. This isn't to suggest that the relationship should be equal at all times, in e…
By Amanda Chatel

11 Genius Sex Toys That Double As Jewelry

For far too long female sexuality didn't get the attention it deserved. It was assumed — and still is by some — that only men are sexual beings and women just sort of go along with it. In fact, when you look at masturbation rates between men and wome…
By Amanda Chatel

Here's What A Sex Expert Wants You To Know About Flavored Condoms

I was 19 when I first rolled into Condom World on Newbury Street in Boston. Not only was it my first foray into "adult entertainment" stores, as I believe they were called then, but it was my first introduction to a lot of things — condoms in particu…
By Amanda Chatel

6 Tips On Attracting "The One" Into Your Life, According To A Psychic

For many people, finding "The One" is pretty close to the top of their list of priorities. In a society that puts such emphasis on love and being in a relationship, it's hard to escape the pressures of not just feeling like you "should" couple up, bu…
By Amanda Chatel

How My Dating Life Changed When I Started Demanding I Orgasm Every Time With Every Partner

In the summer of 2015, I came across an interview with Nicki Minaj in Cosmo. In it she said, and I quote, “I demand that I climax. I think women should demand that.” I remember thinking how that was fantastic, but also thinking such a demand wasn’t e…
By Amanda Chatel

6 Fun Ways To Celebrate National Sex Day On 6/9 (Besides The Obvious)

In case you forgot to mark it on your calendar, June 9 is National Sex Day! Why June 9? Well, look at the date: 6/9... 69, get it? Oh, the creativity of the people who come up with these days. If there's Talk Like A Pirate Day and National Sit on My …
By Amanda Chatel

31 People Share How They Met Their Current Partner

With every partner I've had, a fun story of how we met accompanied it. One partner I met in a cabaret in Paris after I accidentally insulted him by saying the musician playing that night was awful and that's why I was sitting outside with my friend. …
By Amanda Chatel

How My Dating Life Changed When I Stopped Saying, "I Don’t Know. What Do You Want To Do?"

It’s the age-old question: “I don’t know. What do you want to do?” If someone were to pay me a penny for every time I've uttered these words, I'd be giving Bill Gates a run for his money. I don’t know exactly where this indecisiveness originated, but…
By Amanda Chatel

I Vowed To Never Fall In Love Again After My Marriage Ended. Here's What Changed My Mind

I’ve never been lucky in love. Which, honestly, is ironic considering my name “Amanda” means “worthy of love.” While I have been in love with people, it was rarely simple. My first love, Timothy, was easy, comparatively speaking. But lots of things a…
By Amanda Chatel

How The End Of My Marriage Became The Beginning Of Me

When my marriage came to an end, I thought that I’d never be able to look at my friends and family again. Not only did I foolishly rush into my marriage, but my friends and family spent a small fortune to get to my wedding reception in Paris. When yo…
By Amanda Chatel

7 Subtle Signs Your Partner Isn't Independent Enough For You

For the most part, people need people. Although our need for people depends on the person in the equation or what's going on with us in our lives, to quote poet John Donne, "no man is an island." It's just not how we're wired. But while needing peopl…
By Amanda Chatel

The One Sex Toy To Try This Month

While there are many ways you can make June 2018 unforgettable — having a hot fling, jetting off to Rome for a long weekend, finally buying those designer shoes you've been eyeing — an even better way to make it a month that will go down in history a…
By Amanda Chatel

Men Masturbate More Than Women, But It Has Nothing To Do With Sex Drive

Before I got out of bed this morning, I masturbated. Three times. That's right; I started my day off with three fantastic orgasms. It wasn't because I was feeling particularly sexual. I masturbated because I can (so I do) and it feels good. I don't n…
By Amanda Chatel

How To Talk To A Parent About A Mental Health Issue You Think They’re Ignoring

Despite the fact that roughly 450 million people, worldwide, have a mental illness, according to the World Health Organization, the stigma surrounding mental health issues remains. Try as we might to tear down that stigma, it can feel like for every …
By Amanda Chatel

I've Cried After Masturbation Several Times & It's Actually Not That Strange

The first time I cried after masturbation, I thought I was losing it. Nothing in my life was “off” at the time; it was a Saturday afternoon in early spring, the sun was out, and there I was crying. Orgasms, both with partners and during masturbation,…
By Amanda Chatel

I Often Prefer Masturbation To Sex & There's Nothing Wrong With That

Whoever said that sex was like pizza, “even when it’s bad it’s good,” was sorely mistaken. I’ve done the one-night stand thing — a lot — and never truly felt satisfied. It’s the lack of pleasure and the lack of orgasm equality that’s often a componen…
By Amanda Chatel

How To Talk To Your Partner If You Think They Have A Mental Health Issue They're Ignoring

Although mental health disorders are extremely common and nothing of which anyone should ever be ashamed, the stigma attached to mental health can be damaging on so many levels. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness, 43.8 million adul…
By Amanda Chatel

The Majority Of American Sex Toy Owners Have One Of These

It's no surprise that the sex toy industry is huge business. Over the last several years it's gone from a small market that catered to a few, to a multi-billion dollar industry that continues to grow, and grow rapidly. One of the reasons it's doing s…
By Amanda Chatel

These 8 Ethical NSFW Sites Focus On Female Pleasure

All you have to do is watch a few minutes of mainstream porn, to realize that plenty of it is really demeaning and degrading toward women. And it's not just in front of the camera that these things play out; behind the camera, countless allegations h…
By Amanda Chatel

9 Things To Remember When You're Sexting For The First Time

When the very first text was sent in 1994, it was only a matter of time before it would be used to sext. Just like there was no way that phones on cameras weren't going to be used to send nudes — it was inevitable. And, for many people, it made their…
By Amanda Chatel