What Does The Male Orgasm Feel Like? 10 Men Reveal What's Really Going On When They Climax
Curious about what an orgasm feels like for a man? Sure, you could read up on the science behind it in order to learn the basics — which would include elementary things like increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and rapid breathing. You might learn that men can orgasm without ejaculation. Not to mention the fact that the male orgasm tends to be shorter than its female counterpart. Also noteworthy: Men can have multiple orgasms. It's impossible for men to have multiple ejaculatory orgasms with no refractory period. But like I mentioned, not all male orgasms are ejaculatory.
Some researchers claim that the orgasmic experience is almost identical in both sexes, but men and women have different needs, expectations, and behaviors leading up to the Big O. To find out the truth about the male orgasm, we went straight to the mouths of some dudes with penises.
Read on for what these 10 guys had to say about what the male orgasm actually feels like to them — from the weird fantasies they experience right before it, to what they do after (nap), and the feeling that they might just die before it's over.
1. Bob, 26
"Depending on the situation, it's either a slow or quick buildup, followed by an insane explosion that lasts three to vie seconds. Then you either feel shame, or a feeling of 'Yeah, all right, I totally had sex,' which is immediately followed by a need to nap."
2. Eric, 25
"A male orgasm feels like the onset of a dire need at the very same moment that it's being fulfilled, in slow motion. Like a voracious, mind-shattering thirst just as a waterfall begins to surge down towards you from above. Like a tickle that creeps up from every corner of your body until you're desperate for it to stop and also to continue forever, as if squeegees are scraping through your limbs. Like a gunshot, startling and discreet, leaving you with the vibrations, the trembling steel, the blow-back."
3. Matt, 26
"It kind of transcends a pure physical feeling. It's like a whole body and mind numbness, where for a few brief seconds you strangely feel both helpless yet in complete control, mentally vacant while the entirety of your tactile sense rushes to a single point of exit."
4. Mark, 26
"There is no need to explain the male orgasm in great detail, because there's no great detail about it. Your dick gets hard, like, 'What's up. I'm here to party' ... sometimes well before the party has even started. Your dick gets warm (full party mode), then it feels like it's going to explode, like a power-up in a video game. Then you're done."
5. Jason, 30
"It's like you're wandering through this robotic state. My mind starts thinking about all these weird fantasies, and once I finish, everything becomes clear again. Everything just makes sense for a few seconds afterward. It's hard to explain."
6. Alan, 27
"First of all, the male orgasm when you're having sex is way different from when you're just jerking off. When I jerk off, it's just for a means to an end. But when I actually come inside someone, it's like this climax that you're passing on to someone else — this intense feeling that's happening when you're literally in another person. There's nothing that makes me feel more vulnerable."
7. Peter, 23
"Male orgasms are most intense when you try to hold out for as long as possible. If you just let it go once you feel like you're almost there, it's still great. But being on the edge of one and pulling back in order to go for longer creates this really powerful buildup that's totally worth the self-control it takes to get there."
8. Jesse, 26
"I've noticed that my girlfriend's orgasms are definitely longer. Ours really are just a few seconds if we're lucky. A quick burst; maybe like three to five seconds, tops. Don't get me wrong, they feel great, but I have a feeling that you ladies have it better in the orgasm department."
9. Kyle, 22
"A pressure builds, and keeps building until you can't hold it in anymore. There's a threshold that you cross when you know that once you release, you're done. What follows is like that pressure building and falling, but every time it builds, you let out more (which is why it doesn't just gush out in one go, and it comes out in steady intervals)."
10. Stephan, 32
"It begins as a welling of pressure deep within. The contractions build, and as you start to ejaculate, it feels like the best piss you've ever taken. Like the greatest relief ever. This whole time, all you want to do is hold onto whoever you're doing it with, just grab them and hold on for dear life, because sometimes you're pretty sure you're going to die."
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