What Does The Male Orgasm Feel Like? 10 Men Reveal What's Really Going On When They Climax


If you read up on the science behind what a male orgasm feels like, you'll learn they experience things like increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and rapid breathing. But hearing people with penises explain the sensation in their own words lets you in on the experience in a whole new way.

Though the physical signs of an orgasm may look similar from person to person, they're by no means all the same. For example, you might not have known that people with penises can orgasm without ejaculation. And while it's impossible for people with penises to have multiple ejaculatory orgasms with no refractory period, they can still have multiple orgasms.

According to an Everyday Health article reviewed by a medical doctor, there are typically four steps leading up to ejaculation during a male orgasm. They include arousal, plateau, orgasm, and resolution and refraction. During arousal, blood flows into the penis at 50 times its normal rate which — you guessed it — leads to an erection. During the plateau phase, which only lasts between 30 seconds and two minutes, the person's heartbeat starts to increase, basically in preparation for an orgasm. And in case you were wondering, Everyday Health explains, orgasms feel so good because nerves causing the muscle contractions tell the brain it's experiencing pleasure.


But "good" only scrapes the surface when it comes to what an orgasm feels like, according to a study published in Socioaffective Neuroscience & Psychology about how sex can affect brain rhythms. "Sex is a source of pleasurable sensations and emotional connection, but beyond that, it’s actually an altered state of consciousness," Adam Safron, PhD, the author of the study "What is orgasm? A model of sexual trance and climax via rhythmic entrainment," told Science Daily. " ... I wasn't expecting to find that sexual activity was so similar to music and dance, not just in the nature of the experiences, but also in that evolutionarily, rhythm-keeping ability may serve as a test of fitness for potential mates."

Some researchers claim that the orgasmic experience is almost identical for everyone, but it's important to remember that people have different needs, expectations, and behaviors leading up to the Big O. To find out the truth about the male orgasm, we went straight to the mouths of some people with penises. Read on for what these 10 people had to say about what the male orgasm actually feels like to them — from the weird fantasies they experience right before it, to what they do after (nap), and the feeling that they might just die before it's over.

1. Bob, 26


2. Eric, 25

3. Matt, 26

4. Mark, 26


5. Jason, 30

6. Alan, 27

7. Peter, 23


8. Jesse, 26

9. Kyle, 22

10. Stephan, 32


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Studies referenced:

Safron, A. (2016). What is orgasm? A model of sexual trance and climax via rhythmic entrainment. Socioaffective Neuroscience & Psychology, 6(1). doi: 10.3402/snp.v6.31763

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