There are a lot of myths out there about women: We can’t do math, we’re all just trying to land a husband, we’re constantly having pillow fights, and once a month, we become chocolate-pounding rage monsters who put the whole office at risk for bears. The thing about restrictive gender stereotypes, though, is they cut both ways — our male brethren are also subjected to unfair assumptions. One Reddit thread sought to dispel some of these by asking the men of Reddit to share which myths about men are completely untrue, and infuriate them the most.
Listen, I am no innocent here. Though I was taught early on that media present a two-dimensional, incomplete picture of womanhood, it wasn’t until much later that I began questioning some of my assumptions about men. My belief that men want women to play “hard to get” led me to spend most of high school sprinting out of the room whenever a guy I liked walked in, and then cruelly berating him if he ever managed to catch up with me. You know, flirting!
The truth is, though, just a sexually frustrated girl who once told her crush to “dig a hole and die” and then was shocked that he didn’t immediately make out with me, I was engaging in the same kind of reductionist thought process I had been taught to criticize — I was responding to society’s idea of a person, not the actual person in front of me.
There is a difference, of course, between men being misunderstood and the centuries of economic and social repression of women, but the only way to move forward is to recognize our assumptions about each other, and then put them aside so we can truly see the person in front us, who they are beneath their gender, race, creed, or sexuality.
In light of that, here are some of the myths we should finally retire about guys, according to the men of Reddit.