Being a feminist and sticking to your values 100 percent of the time is difficult, even in 2017 (actually, especially in 2017). Once you learn about the various systems of oppressions which operate to subjugate women and maintain a patriarchal society, life is never the same. Everywhere you look, there's a new opportunity to observe problematic structural biases that perpetuate sexist values, and it's both completely exhausting and utterly depressing. There are plenty of awesome feminist characters in TV and film these days, but sometimes you really need a break in the form of a good ol' fashioned romantic comedy — even the iffy rom-coms that can be problematic for feminists.
Yes, it's true: feminists can still enjoy entertainment that doesn't completely align with all their values. It's nearly impossible to totally avoid non-feminist entertainment, unfortunately, so you may as well allow yourself to indulge in your romantic fantasizing if it still makes you happy. Of all the film genres, rom-coms probably reinforce the sexist cultural ideals the most because they're usually based on the false belief that without men, women are unhappy or unfulfilled. More often than not, rom-coms feature a women crying and being sad until she finally has her love interest's approval. It can be tough to watch, and it can be even tougher to want to watch as a feminist. Part of being a complex, self-aware woman means facing your contradictions head-on, though, and indulging in a rom-com is a great way to do that.