When you're looking to increase sexual desire or sensation, people might tell you things like "shut your mind off," as if it were that simple. But for most people, it's not. Unless you're a meditation master, you're going to think about something, so what should you think about during sex?
"The latest brain research indicates what a lot of us who’ve had orgasms have known for a long time, and that is, when you are fully immersed in the sensations leading up to orgasm and during orgasm itself, you aren’t really capable of thinking at all," Laurie Mintz, professor of psychology at the University of Florida and author of Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It, tells Bustle. "This knowledge can help us answer the question of what to think about during sex — and that is, nothing! To experience orgasm requires allowing yourself to fully and completely immerse in the sensations of the moment."
But how do you reach that point? Sometimes, you have to trick your mind into shutting off. Yes, you can think yourself out of thinking. Here are some things to think about during sex to turn yourself on and turn your mind off.