Sexual fantasies are kind of like handbags: no matter how many are hanging in your closet, you usually end up sticking with the same one. Even when you get bored of a sexual fantasy/bag, none of the others seem to have the same appeal, and you want a new one. Now that I've exhausted that analogy, let me tell you where I'm going with it: So that you (and, let's be honest, me) can update your fantasy collection, I asked women which fantasies get them to the finish line without fail.
"Fantasies play an important role in our lives, as they offer a form of escapism from the everyday," Astroglide's Resident Sexologist Dr. Jessica O'Reilly tells Bustle. "Fantasies may offer a glimpse into the thematic elements of your real-life desires, but it’s important to note that sexual fantasies often include acts, people, and scenarios that we’d never want to pursue in real life."
The most common sexual fantasies, according to one 2014 University of Montreal study, are sex in an exciting place, sex with a new partner, and being submissive. That doesn't mean people who think about these things want to do them; it just means they're arousing to imagine. And the image running through your head can really make or break a sex session, whether it's by yourself or with a partner.
Here are a few more detailed (sometimes very detailed) fantasies that women shared. Everyone is different, so they may lead you to head to your room and close the door right this minute, or they may do absolutely nothing for you. Nevertheless, think of them as inspiration. Maybe they'll even prompt you to write down your own.
Who needs erotica when you can read that? Now, if you'll excuse me, I have to go take a call... in my bedroom...