7 Assumptions You Should Never Make About A Sexual Partner

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Many people have been taught to believe that sex isn't something you should talk about. This leads to lots of problems, one of which is people making assumptions about their partners. These assumptions take many forms, but they all detract from our ability to get what we want in bed and give our partners what they want, as well.

"One of our downfalls is making assumptions about others, either that they can figure out what we’re thinking/feeling/wanting or that we can successfully guess what their deal is," sex educator Anne Hodder, tells Bustle. "All of this stems from avoiding the discomfort of communicating, using our words to give and receive potentially sensitive — but often vital — personal information."

The alternative to making assumptions, of course, is talking. "The only way we can 100 percent know something about another person is if we hear it from them, and that might mean we’ll have to ask questions and initiate conversation about it," Hodder says. "It might feel challenging at first, but the more we do it, the easier it gets!"

On that note, here are some assumptions you should never make about a sexual partner, whether it's within a serious relationship, a casual hookup, or something in between.