When it comes to marriage, everyone loves to give their two cents, and with all the warnings and advice floating around out there, no wonder people find marriage intimidating. Luckily, you don't always have to play by the rules, and there's some bad marriage advice that couples really shouldn't follow. Everyone's relationship is different, and sometimes longstanding advice can become outdated — or even work to create the opposite type of relationship you're striving for.
"There is no set of right marriage rules or wrong marriage rules for a relationship," relationship therapist Rhonda Milrad, LCSW, Founder of online relationship community, Relationup, tells Bustle. "There are no rules associated with the longevity, satisfaction or health of a relationship. What works well for one couple may not work well for another. There are only two things that matter when setting rules for your marriage: they need to work well for the two of you and they need to be flexible. Both of you need to be able to open up discussions about the marriage rules and renegotiate them at any time."
You may be used to reading advice in magazines, getting tips from your relatives, or hearing about what works from friends, but you don't necessarily have to abide by everything that comes your way. Here are seven common marriage rules grown-ass couples shouldn't follow, according to relationship therapists.