I’ve always found even the smallest decisions to be stressful and impossible. But I just chalked that up to being an indecisive person, whatever that means. As it turns out, though, “indecisive” isn’t just an innate personality trait. It’s often an indication that something is off.
I recently went to a clarity coach, and it changed how I think about decisions. I used to think that if I couldn’t make a decision, there just was no right answer, and I’d might as well flip a coin and get it over with. But my coach, Vijay Ram, says you can always arrive at a decision if you give it enough time and express all your thoughts and feelings. The problem is, many people don’t even know what they’re feeling and thinking.
“Some people can’t/don’t make decisions because they are too busy over-analyzing everything,” Caleb Backe, a Health and Wellness Expert for Maple Holistics, tells Bustle. “They analyze things to death, and are satisfied with that. They justify to themselves that they are not ignoring the problems. Quite the opposite — they are always thinking about them. But while thought is a wonderful thing, it is best coupled with an action. That jump from theoretical to practical is one which has a strong element of risk and danger in it. Some thrive on that feeling, but most of us are not ready to deal with it in many areas of our life.”
Here are a few reasons you might constantly have trouble making decisions — and some ways to deal with them.