7 Seemingly Innocent Habits That Build Emotional Barriers In Your Relationship

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In order to have a deep connection with your partner, it's important to allow yourself to open up and be vulnerable. But if you feel like there's an emotional blockage in your relationship, pay close attention to your behavior. Because even if you're not completely aware that you're doing it, experts say that some seemingly innocent habits you have can build emotional barriers in your relationship.

"In a relationship, you create emotional barriers to protect yourself from what you've experienced in the past (heartbreak, abuse, abandonment)," Yue Xu, host and creator of the Dateable Podcast, tells Bustle. "As you put up more and more barriers after each adversity, you will become disconnected from yourself."

In turn, your partner may sense that you're not fully present in the relationship, making it much harder for them to connect with you on a much deeper level. According to relationship coach, Vikki Louise, a relationship with emotional barriers is one without trust. When you're building these walls up, whether you realize it or not, it can lead to things like miscommunication, dishonesty and judgement. "This will continue to spiral, ultimately separating you from your partner, emotionally," she says.

Fortunately, there are things you can do to break down those emotional walls. The first thing is recognize the habits that can cause them in the first place. So here are some seemingly innocent habits that can build emotional barriers in your relationship, according to experts.