How do you know you've found your soulmate? Well, the truth is, there are a lot more signs that you haven't found the right person than that you have. When you're with someone where things just "fit", then it will feel that way. But the struggle of a relationship that isn't working can be hard to ignore. "A relationship with your soulmate feels dramatically different from other relationships because there is a natural, almost instinctual, alignment with one another," psychotherapist Avery Neal, M.A., LPC. tells Bustle. "You may not even believe a person so consistent with you even exists! Whereas other relationships may feel like a struggle, almost as if you are swimming upstream, with your soulmate things tend to flow effortlessly between the two of you. It is not that there is never conflict or disconnection, but even during these times there is never a doubt of love between the two of you and both of you work to restore closeness again."
Even if you don't believe in soulmates in the traditional sense — the idea that there's only one person in the whole world who is the perfect match for you in some cosmic plan — you may see relationships that have a different level of compatibility that are just a better fit. Those couples you look at and go, "Yes, that makes sense!" And while many of us like to think our relationship is one of those, it's not always the case.
Of course, you don't have to be with "The One" to be happy in a relationship, but if your relationship is causing you too much stress or just isn't a good fit, it's better to admit that and find one that works for. So here are the signs that your partner is not your soulmate.