In my first “real” job out of college, I had a nightmare boss. Granted, I was young and inexperienced — and did plenty of things that, looking back, must have been frustrating — but the job was entry level and they specifically wanted someone with very little experience. But instead of training me, my boss alternated between indirect insults, ignoring me, and purposely excluding me from group events. Just like in an abusive relationship, she’d be a little bit nice every couple of months and I’d think, “Oh! Maybe it’s getting better!” only for her to slam me back down again. I was being disrespected at work constantly for two and a half years.
Like I said: A nightmare. But while I knew the situation wasn’t working for me, I was too inexperienced to really trust my own instincts. Was this normal? Was I to blame? Should I just buck up and deal with it? I spent a lot of time doubting myself during that job and eventually quit and moved to South America. (Yup — that’s how rough it was. I left the continent to get away from my boss and that job.)
So I know how it feels to be disrespected at work — and to not even know whether or not you’re being disrespected. I know what it feels like to continually doubt yourself; to feel like something is not quite right but not be able to exactly nail down what’s wrong. With the hope of helping out other people who are in that situation (and maybe if you can identify it sooner, you can get out sooner), HR professionals share signs that you’re not being respected at work below.