If you're rushing into a relationship, chances are you don't want to see the signs. Normally we're moving too fast because we're trying to get over someone, we're scared of being alone, or any number of issues that make us feel more comfortable being paired up. But rushing is never the answer — and often will lead to bigger relationship problems down the line.
You need to have enough time just being together, proper downtime, to make sure that you're actually compatible. "Whether it’s pillow talk, dinner conversation or time on the couch while watching TV, give yourselves plenty of time to talk about what you think and how things are going," Tina B. Tessina, aka Dr. Romance, psychotherapist and author of Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences, tells Bustle. If you don't make sure that you're actually good together, you may end up having rushed through a bunch of relationship stages to find that you're very attached to each other — but without a very strong foundation. You can save yourself a lot of heartache if you move slowly and make sure that it's really working between the two of you before you invest too much time and energy.