Sometimes it's hard to gauge what can make someone uncomfortable or creep someone out, especially in the context of relationships. Because what constitutes "crossing the line" can vary among people, there are bound to be misunderstandings in relationships. But those can be easily resolved through communicationand a discussion of boundaries, as well as being aware of actions experts say people generally find creepy when their partners are the ones doing them. As relationship expert Dr. Megan Stubbs tells Bustle, there's one thing many people do in relationships that may be unintentionally creeping their partners out.
Social media stalking a partner, especially when the couple has just started dating, is something many people do. And trying to get the scoop on a new partner is not necessarily a bad thing. "I think looking into your partner's past and their current connections is a way for you to get to know what makes your partner who they are today," Stubbs says. "Much like in Shrek, your partner is an onion and you want to examine all of the complex layers that make them who they are." It's just human nature to be curious.
But according to Stubbs, there are some people who can find this unsettling. Stubbs says it can cross the line for people when theirpartner dives deep into theirsocial media accounts, Googles their name, follows friends of friends of the person, or asks mutual friends about them.
According to Stubbs, a good way to gauge creep-level is for someone to ask themselves, "how would you feel if it was done to you?" Although creeping someone out can be unintentional, and may be the result of not knowing someone well enough to understand what makes them uncomfortable, experts say there are a few things that many people find creepy in relationships to look out for.