Many women have had a partner assume sex was finished without considering whether they had orgasmed. In fact, a recent YouGov poll found that men are more than twice as likely as women to say they orgasm every time they have sex. If you come across the orgasm gap in your own sex life, you don't have to put up with it. It's always OK to advocate for your orgasm.
If you have trouble asking for what you want in bed, you may benefit from working on your assertiveness, Astroglide's resident sexologist Dr. Jess O'Reilly, tells Bustle. "Practice prioritizing your own pleasure so that you’re focused on yourself (at least) as much as you’re focused on your partner."
That need may even extend outside the bedroom. "Work on cultivating a relationship (in and out of the bedroom) in which you feel comfortable speaking up for what you want," says Dr. Jess. "This might begin with daily interactions like expressing desires with regard to what you want to eat and what you do on the weekends. You’ll also benefit from speaking up when things aren’t working for you (e.g. you don’t always want to watch a specific show). As you become more comfortable asking for what you want outside of the bedroom, the assertion skills will come more easily in bed."
Still tongue-tied? Here are some lines to use when your partner thinks sex is over because they've orgasmed but you haven't.