When you start to get more serious with someone, building trust in your relationship is key. You should be able to talk to your partner about anything and, if they're not your best friend, they should feel like one of your best friends. "Deep friendship is the foundation to a healthy relationship," relationship counselor Crystal Bradshaw tells Bustle. "Trust and safety follow friendship. As these elements are planted and strengthened, the relationship grows and matures." But to make it grow, there's some work involved. Partly it's built through time and through your actions, but it's also built through communication.
When it comes to building trust through communication, it's not something you can just force — make sure to think about your partner as an individual and what they might want to talk about or not want to talk about.
"What questions will build trust with some people might not with others," board-certified psychiatrist Dr. Susan Edelman tells Bustle. "Trust depends on how you respond to their answer, not just asking them a question. For example, if someone gets into a lot of painful details about their family, the question-asker may get overwhelmed and look like they want to escape. That might not build trust. These questions can be tricky if you don't take criticism well. If you get defensive, it's less likely to build trust, especially if you asked them the question in the first place."
So keeping that in mind, here are the questions that can help you build trust, according to experts.