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9 Sex Positions You'll Wish You Had Tried Sooner
It’s never too late to try something new.
Missionary. Doggy style. Back to missionary. If you’re in a long-term relationship, you and your partner likely have a few poses that work like a charm — and you stick with them every time.
While there’s no shame in having faves or knowing what works, it can also be fun to try new sex positions, especially when you’re looking to spice things up. After all, it’s not uncommon for established couples to fall into a rut, says Jonathan Bennett, dating and relationship expert at Double Trust Dating.
When sex starts to feel boring or bland — or you find yourselves skipping it entirely in favor of falling asleep — he says it may be time to add a few new positions into the mix. Sometimes, that means doing something bold, like acting out a fantasy or attempting a super complicated pose, but more often than not, all you have to do is slightly alter your usuals. Just like that, you’ll see fireworks.
A few simple tweaks or variations can help you rediscover your sex life, and what’s even better? You won’t have to throw your back out getting into them. Here are nine sex positions that you'll definitely wish you had tried sooner.
1Modified Doggy
How To Do It:
If you like traditional doggy style on your hands and knees, start in this position with your partner behind you, and then slowly lower down onto your forearms. You can also rest on your stomach and put a pillow under your hips.
Why You Should Try It:
This pose allows you to change the angle slightly, and it can make all the difference in the world. Modified doggy also feels a little more intimate, which is always nice when you’re in a long-term relationship. As a bonus, it’s the perfect pose to melt into when you’re low-energy.
2Weak In The Knees
How To Do It:
Sit. On. Their. Face. Seriously, it's that easy. Have your partner lie on their back and then straddle their face. You can face the wall behind their head and use it as a brace or face their toes — whatever feels best.
Why You Should Try It:
Straight-up face sitting is daring, and that’s the whole point. It brings you closer together and allows your partner to see a whole new side of you. That said, it’s also more comfortable than you might realize, and it allows you to control the pace.
3Doggy With Vibe
How To Do It:
Another way to boost doggy style is with a vibrator. Once you get into position, grab a toy and play around with it. Hold it on various erogenous zones.
Why You Should Try It:
If you like the intensity of doggy, the addition of the vibrator will allow you to take things further with intense clitoral and G-spot stimulation. Use it on yourself, then give your partner a turn. It's also a great opportunity to try having a blended orgasm, aka when you have both clitoral and G-spot stimulation simultaneously.
4Lotus
How To Do It:
With your partner sitting cross-legged on the floor or in bed, lower down onto their lap and wrap your arms and legs around one another. From there, you can grind or bounce up and down.
Why You Should Try It:
It's a tricky position to get into, which makes it fun to try. It also brings you closer together, which means you can kiss, maintain eye contact, or whisper dirty talk into each other’s ears. In an instant, your usual Saturday night romp is taken up a notch.
5The Chair
How To Do It:
Have your partner sit in a chair while you straddle them and lower down. You can face away from them if you want a kinkier option with more access to clitoral stimulation.
Why You Should Try It:
If you're a couple who tends to stick to the bed, this is a really easy way to mix things up and get out of a rut — without trying anything too complicated. It’s a fun one for movie night, since you can do it right there in the living room.
It gives your partner a great view, which is always going to be exciting, while you get to play around with motion and speed. Who knows? You might decide it’s your new favorite.
6The Bridge
How To Do It:
Start in missionary, then have your partner sit back on their heels while you lift your butt into the air and guide them towards you. For support, rest your booty on their hips or pile a bunch of pillows under your lower back.
Why You Should Try It:
This position is an easy way to make missionary more interesting. It gives a really sexy view of each other without being too complex, and also provides lots of room for clit play. Put those free hands to good use.
7The Plow
How To Do It:
While in missionary, have your partner slowly guide one of your legs onto their shoulder. Then add the other one, if it feels comfortable.
Why You Should Try It:
This easy shift makes missionary feel so much deeper and more intense, which is often the remedy to any sex life that’s gotten dull. Since your faces are so close together, it’s also surprisingly intimate.
8Spooning
How To Do It:
Get on your side in the spooning position and have your partner scooch up behind you. Guide their hand to your clitoris or reach back and touch them. It could also be fun to grab a toy and experiment with that.
Why You Should Try It:
What could be hotter than pressing your bodies into one another? This pose is intense, intimate, and also just the right amount of lazy. Try it on a Sunday morning when you’re lying around in bed.
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How To Do It:
As your partner turns on their side and spreads their legs apart, you face away from them and straddle their bottom leg. Lower down into position.
Why You Should Try It:
This move introduces a brand new angle — and view — that’ll have you wondering why you didn’t try it sooner. It’s not too complicated, but still feels spicy.
Additional reporting by Carolyn Steber.
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