How do you know someone's cheating? Well, the best way is probably to catch them in the act. It's not pretty, but catching someone cheating on you or talking to someone they're cheating with makes it a lot more difficult for them to lie their way out of it. But of course, they're going to be sneaky. So how do you find out if your partner's cheating? You don't need to go full MacGyver, but knowing how cheaters typically communicate with affair partners can help. And Ashley Madison, an extra-marital dating site, recently looked into just this issue. They surveyed almost 1,500 cheaters about how they communicated with their cheating partner. The number one response? Their good old cell phone.
And the number one way that cheaters communicate doesn't come as a huge surprise — because a lot of experts have warned that being shady with your phone is a sign that something is off. "One clue is that their cell phone will be glued to their hands and their text and call history will always be clean," relationship coach Chris Armstrong tells Bustle. "Same with erasing the cookies (web browsing history) from their computer... When someone is cheating on their partner, erasing all of the breadcrumbs becomes priority one, largely because cheaters have a guilty conscious and a nervous mind."
Yet, in some ways, it's also sort of an odd choice. “Given that discretion is paramount to our members, it's surprising that around half of respondents say they store their extramarital partner name in their phone, when they can just as easily communicate more discreetly within the Ashley Madison platform, reducing their digital footprint,” Isabella Mise, Director of Communications at Ashley Madison, tells Bustle. I mean, it does seem like a good way to get caught.