Most people know you should avoid cheating, but it's not always clear what that means. Different people define cheating differently, which means that some things that may not seem like cheating actually are in some relationships. It depends what you and your partner are comfortable with, which is why you need to talk about what counts as cheating to each of you. But certain things shouldn't be assumed to be fair game right off the bat.
"Cheating is a deceptive act of hiding or not telling the full truth to a partner," life coach Nina Rubin tells Bustle. "A good way to know if you are cheating is by asking yourself if you’d be uncomfortable getting caught. If the answer is yes, it’s likely cheating. And if you suspect your partner is cheating, ask. Even though it’s a difficult conversation, it’s better to know."
When you and your partner decide to be exclusive, have a conversation about what that means. Discuss whether you'd be OK with each other flirting with others, expressing attraction to someone else, going to strip clubs, or being on dating sites (even for friendship). You may even discuss whether or not each of you would want to know if the other person cheated.
Here are some things that may not come to mind when you picture cheating but could be cheating to some people.