Moving in together is usually considered a way to mark a new level your relationship has reached. But it will also alter your dynamic even more. There are a number of ways moving in together changes your relationship, and each requires you both to evolve to meet your partnership's new demands.
“Discussing potential issues before the move is an excellent way to avoid conflict and mismatched expectations," clinical psychologist Janna Koretz, Psy.D, tells Bustle. "When we move in with someone, we know at least some things about them. Of course, we can't anticipate everything, which is why communication, post-move, is also key. Being able to calmly address things as they come up over time will significantly improve relationship satisfaction.”
My partner and I aren't really sure when we moved in together. In order to avoid the annoyances of long-distance relationships, I came to visit him about two months after we met and then didn't leave for another two months. Then we spent a few more months apart before I came back. Last time felt more like a visit, but now, it feels like I've moved in. Maybe it's because my name is on the door or because I've updated my Twitter bio to name his city or because we now refer to the place as "our apartment."
Whatever it is, I've noticed a few aspects of our relationship change this time around. These changes are mostly positive — it is, after all, incredibly convenient. But there are also a few new challenges. Here are a few ways living together can affect your dynamic and the adjustments they might require.