How Sharing Your Fantasies Can Strengthen Your Relationship
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Sexual fantasies can be such a personal thing, and for some, they're secrets. So the thought of sharing it out loud with someone else can seem terrifying. But if you don't already do so in your relationship, there are some really good reasons why you should start talking about your fantasies. As a new study published in The Journal of Sex Research found, couples who are open with each other about their sexual fantasies tend to have better sex and a happier relationship overall.
Researchers Randal D. Brown and Daniel J. Weigel from the University of Nevada, Reno conducted a study of 265 people in long-term relationships. Participants took online questionnaires that asked them on relationship stability, communication within their relationship, how sexually satisfied they were, and how open they were with their partner on things related to sex.
"In my experience, partners who talk openly about their fantasies tend to have good communication, solid trust, and more excitement, which leads to great sex and nourishing relationships," sexologist and relationship therapist, Kelly McDonnell-Arnold, tells Bustle. "This is the result of just the right combination of safety and risk."
Sharing fantasies are a relatively safe way to take erotic risks, she says. When partners have good communication, they learn to understand each other better, which builds trust and makes fantasy sharing a safe activity.
What are some other benefits? Here's what the study found: